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writes: Hi, I am a 16 (nearly 17) year old girl from London, UK... I have visited Cuba 7 times and I have some very good friends there. In June I met a guy aged 24 who worked at the hotel I stay in who was very sweet. I didn't stay in touch with him but I went back in late September. I saw the guy on a night out and we got talking again (his English is poor but my Spanish is worse). We exchanged emails and numbers and since he has text me or emailed me at least twice a week but all of the messages are in Spanish with little English and I use the internet to translate. I'm not naive and know some of the goings on (just wanting to leave Cuba) but I really really like this guy, and he wants to see me when I go back. I would like for it to work with him but I need some advice. Would it be a good idea to try and get it to work with him? How could we deal with the age and language differences? How can I get him to really like me and want me? Any other advice? Also, I haven't been in a serious relationship and never properly kissed a guy apart from a peck. So any advice re that would be great. sorry it's so long. Thanks in advance
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 February 2015):
 The age difference between 16 and 24 is as big as 30 and 70.
You are at a totally different point in life than a man of 24 is.
If you have:
a. a distance issue (UK/Cuba) and
b. an age gap (8 years at under 25 is a big gap) AND
c. a language barrier
then I fear that this is a lost cause for you.
As Tisha wisely has pointed out, you can't get a guy to like you or want you.
He is a pen pal nothing more.
do not sext with him
do not send any pictures you would not want daddy to see...
give it time, this too shall pass.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 February 2015):
 "How can I get him to really like me and want me? Any other advice? Also, I haven't been in a serious relationship and never properly kissed a guy apart from a peck."
You can't get someone to really like you and 'want' you.
Think about it this way, there may be a guy who really likes you and wants you, he's a guy you know already at school, but you don't see him as a guy you could like.
What advice would you give this guy to get you to notice him? (He may be a bit younger than you and isn't totally sophisticated or older.}
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (22 February 2015):
 If you were 21 you could each afford to travel back and forth, it would be different, but a 24 year old shouldn't see a 16/17 year old as dating material because you're not at the same stage in life. That's not a bad thing about you, but it's questionable from him.
As for the language barrier, that's a major problem also. He can charm you online, while you have no idea what he's really doing and who he's actually doing it with.
This won't be the answer you want, but I think it will only get you feeling lonely, depressed and heartbroken to try to make this a relationship.
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