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writes:I am 16 of age, and Gay. I have not come out to any one ever. I had a crush on a guy in my school. People always assumed that he was gay, and so did I. I started chatting with him last vacations over facebook. It turns out that we were similar in every way possible. We had the exact same choice of music, movies, opinions, and for the same reason too! We came out to each other. He told me that he is really happy to have found me and that he'd give up on life if we ever lost touch. Things were amazing. We literally completed each others thoughts! He used to confide everything in me and he contacted me for every reason he got. But then the vacations drew to an end. We still spoke in School, a lot actually. People started joking about us being gay couples. But I know that that didn't bother him at all. Things were great. But over time, it seems he slowly started pulling away. Before, he treated me like someone special, but now he treats me like any one of his friends. Our school term ended, and it was time to return again. I thought that that's great because we can again started texting and chatting online till 6 in the morning like we used to, without fear that we might be overheard. But that doesn't happen. He hardly replies to my texts or receives my call. He's never online in facebook, and hardly replies the messages I send him. He has a very important exam coming up, and I know that his parents are making him prepare for that. He even sent me a text apologizing and saying that he's not ignoring me, its just that he's been really busy lately. He hasn't been in touch with any of his other friends as well. But for some reason, although he can properly justify not being able to talk to me, I feel as if he doesn't like me anymore. I told him that I am gonna visit his hometown in a few days. He lives pretty far away. I expected him to be really happy, and excited, but he wasn't. In fact he said that he can only meet me for lunch or coffee, because he's really busy and his parents wouldn't allow him. Any advise on what I should do to get things to go back to what they were like will be really appreciated. I really want to ask him out but I guess I should have done it earlier itself. I am afraid that it is too late now. Please help.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 his priorities are his education, not love at at this stage it seems like the window of opportunity is faded for the foreseeable future.
people move one as do life circumstances and you have to go with the flow...
many more options that just him. look forward not backwards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2012): well from what i hear he didn't necesarily stop liking you, and there is a strong chance he is actually busy. he might even like you as more than a friend but is too afraid that his family might find out, so he chooses to keep some distance. but i dont really know since i havent met either of you. i think you should wait until he finishes with his exams and see if he starts treating you like he used to. if he doesn't, talk to him. people feel uncomfortable for the most ridiculus reasons, something might have upset him.
i hope everything turns out to be ok^^
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