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writes:This is just your typical *** hag/gay guy situation according to everyone else, which it probably is. So we took some time apart to distance ourselves, everyone felt our relationship was unhealthy, it wasn't like we couldn't function without each other we were just a little too close and people picked up on it. We've both had dates and shown interest in other people but that little spark was still there, after he sent me a text saying I was his one true love and I replied I felt the same we decided to put some distance between us and didn't talk for a while.Things have just started getting ok again, until the other night when we were drinking (we were the only two who weren't drunk) and one of my freinds asked if two people out of our group of friends woke up naked next to each other what would the reaction be and he said if he woke up naked next to me he'd think his dream came true. Obviously the distance hasn't worked as well as we hoped. He's 20, a virgin and never been in a relationship, he just confessed to liking some guy but from the sounds of it the guy didn't feel the same way. It;s a really bad time to end a friendship I know but i'm beginning to think people are right and we're just not good for each other. I adore him in every sense of the word but having a thing for someone who can never reciprocate the feelings isn't a healthy situation to stay in, it sounds selfish but staying around is hurting me and everyone says that leaving him would hurt a lot lessHow do I end the friendship without hurting him and making him feel like he's to blame?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto clarify I have some pretty strong feelings for him which I don't think he can reciprocate since he insists hes gay, thanks for the advice, I thought the same thing myself about the dream came true thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto clarify I have some pretty strong feelings for him which I don't think he can reciprocate since he insists hes gay, thanks for the advice, I thought the same thing myself about the dream came true thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): You realise that if he has these feelings for you, he isn't actually GAY, right?
If his dream come true is to see you without clothes on, then he is most definitely not gay. Bisexual maybe.
You could, I don't know, give the relationship a shot if you wanted. Would it work out?
Who knows. But at least you could say that you tried.
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reader, romany +, writes (22 June 2010):
 I have loads of gay friends, the joke i'm their ***hag too, and all of them are pretty cut and dried friendships, but this has confused me,.......he's a virgin, but gay, his dream would be to wake up next to you naked, but you think having a thing for someone who cant reciprocate isn't healthy.... who cant/wont reciprocate, him or you? coz he wants to wake up next to you naked, and you adore him in every sense of the word.
I dont see the problem, if you want each other, get it on, if you dont, stay friends.
If i'm missing something, please post a clarification, coz i think you both have overthought all these problems.
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