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*if3sucks
writes:hey everyonei really need some edvice, i always think negative and im a huge worry wart. my bf and i have been dating for ten months and in the first two months he texted this girl naughty mess. and i found out and contronted him and he told me the truth that yes he did. well i gave him a second chance and we havent had problems with with that since, but after about 5 months of dating this rumor went around that the girl he texted started and she was saying they hooked up a few weeks into last summer, i confronted him about that and he swore that it wasnt true...i tried braking up with him because i didnt believe him and he started crying and begging me not to brake up with him cuz he couldnt lose me and he was saying that she has wanted him for so long and that she just wanted to try and brake us up. so i stayed with him. i havent heard anything else about him cheating on me and now we are to our ten months of dating but i still worry to this day about him hurting me again and i dont know how to stop worrying, i want to be able to trust him and i want to quit thinking negative. all it does is cause us to fight, so my question for all of you is how can i trust my bf and quit having these negative thoughts and worrying all the timethanks much!
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reader, lif3sucks +, writes (7 February 2011):
lif3sucks is verified as being by the original poster of the question Haha that's what won me over was when he cried :) And thank you, I've been trying really hard to think good thoughts. It's just really hard for me and I dont know why.
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reader, knaixer  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Sounds to me like he's a good guy (a bit of a wimp though :P) Anyway, to stop having negative thought... Just think positive thought. I think that's really simple, but I found a lot of people have a hard time on it. Just remember all the good time you have w/ your bf. All those time that he look at you with those sincere eyes. The way you two kiss. Just think about those positive thought and nothing else. Hope that helps.
Also, our outcome reflects our thought(not the other way around) If you think being negative is protecting yourself, you are dead wrong. Cuz your negative thought will become a reality if you keep it up.
PS. Crying over Break UP?!?! Seriously? Never saw one before :P
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