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writes:hey, I am 18 and like my flatmate. We get along fine and have lots of fun. However, I have another flatmate, who is female, from Cyprus, and she gets along with him better than me. I think that I can see them flirting. However, she displays this 'flirtive' behaviour around my other male flatmate as well, so I think that it is not anything specifically personal towards the guy that I like, also, she has a boyfriend in Cyprus. I just don't understand why the guy that I like flirts with her more (he touches her a lot more than me). I don't know what I can do to make me stand out a bit more and make him like me more. As a joke he said that it was because he had respect for her, whereas he does not have respect for me, but I think that this is true. How can I make him respect me more, without telling him straight out. I mean, I already do asolutely everything for him, such as his laundry, which she does not. What should I do?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Unfortunately you can't MAKE anyone like you, that has got to be earned, the same as respect has got to be earned.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAgain, thanx for all the advice, BUT i really like him so i want to know what exactly i should do to make him like me as well. How is em refusing to do his laundry...or anything else...for him gonna make him like me???
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 November 2007):
Don't let this bother you. You're too much of a pushover and he's using you to do his dirty laundry. If you stand up for yourself more then you'll get more respect for him. If he sees you doing your laundry and asks you to do his just make a joke of it and say something like "bugger off Peter, ask Sarah to do it for you, I've got enough here to do" or "are you kidding, I have enough to do here, I'll show you how to use the machine if you want to but you're a big boy now, I'm sure you can manage..." If you make a joke out of it then it won't sound so bad AND he'll hopefully get the hint.
Eve
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reader, hello1 +, writes (27 November 2007):
 You know what? you sound really pathetic and weak. So what if your going to live with him for the rest of the year! do you have to do choures for him? nooo. No guy will respect you if your doing all of that before your even a couple! You sound like the perfect 50s housewife, but their a turn off now. Guys like a bit of a chase, amd you are coming across easy, clingy
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for all the advice people, but if i do what u say, will he still like me?? Coz i really like him so if you guys think that doing this is going to mae him develop more feelings towards me then i'll do it. But i have to live with hm for the rest of the year so you have to bear that in mind...he is going to see me do my laundry..
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reader, AskEve +, writes (25 November 2007):
All you need to say is... "Peter sorry I wasn't able to do your laundry for you, I've been really busy, you're probably better doing it yourself from now on". SORTED! If he says do it when you can say well don't be holding your breath!
Eve
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reader, hello1 +, writes (25 November 2007):
Girl your a push over! Who cares if you seem rude, he's rude for expecting you to do all these things. I'm 18 and I would never let anyone treat me like a fool like that man is doing. Don't do his laundry, don't do anything for him! Is he even your b/f? even so your so weak
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey. thnx for the advice, but what in want to know is how can i make him respect me without seeming too obvious...like how can i siddenly refuse to do his laundry without seeming rude?? is there anything i can say???
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reader, AskEve +, writes (25 November 2007):
You answered your own question here. "I do absolutely everything for him..." DON'T!!! Play harder to get, don't be too "easy", be more assertive and let him do his own laundry. That way you'll earn his respect.
Eve
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reader, dinku  +, writes (25 November 2007):
respect yourself, then
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