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writes: This isn't usually the type of thing I'd think about let alone do believe me. This guy and I were sort of FWB a while ago when we were both single. We've kept in touch since then and met up but just as friends because he's back with his ex girlfriend now and I was dating somebody at the time. I admit it wasn't just sex for me, I really did (do) like him and that's the only reason I slept with him in the first place.He's away at the moment but we've been talking quite a lot on Facebook. He's back in January and wants to see me. At first he said he just wants to see a movie but then the more we talked he admitted that he still thought about me in "that way" and keeps thinking about how good the sex used to be. I told him it wouldn't be a good idea. His girlfriend just wrote him a message saying how much she loves him and it just makes me feel sick when she's clueless and he's doing this. I don't know how to handle having feelings for somebody who has a girlfriend.It's easy to say just cut contact and forget but it's not that simple. It kills me he's with her even if he's obviously not 100% committed to her. What am i supposed to do? If i do cut contact what should i say to him?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 Sorry, but it IS that simple. He's with this other girl now, so you need to stay out of it.No need to say anything to him: just cut off all contact. He evidently isn't going to give you what you really want - i.e., a committed relationship with you even if he does break up with her. Your clue is that he told you he keeps thinking about how great sex with you was.Stay with your better judgment - don't see him and say nothing to her or him.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 I'm trying to read between the lines here and I'm picking up that you really want him to be your guy. My answer is don't go there. He has proven to you that he's not a one girl kinda guy which is what I suspect you are wanting. His current girlfriend is going to find out soon what he's like and don't let it be you that he hurts her with.
You don't need to cut contact with him but I wouldn't go back to the FWB situation.
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