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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met my ex almost 4 years ago and we started dating moved in together travelled the world and had a great bond. It was always a very volatile relationship - but for some reason it worked. Until a year ago, where he dumped me and I moved out. We didn't see each other for 4 months but we chatted regularly. When we eventually did meet up we hooked up together and we kinda picked up where we left off. And so for the next 6 months we saw each other almost every other week often staying together for 5-6 days at a time. The sex was great, we had a lot of fun but we didn't talk about things, but we still said I love you to each other. Then he got a job offer abroad and he left 2 months ago. We still chat regularly and then today he told me he had started sleeping with someone, a casual thing. His contract ends in 2 weeks where he'll come home. I said I wasn't sure if we should see each other when he returns - I'm afraid we'll hook up again for a while until he leaves again. But when I said this he called me dramatic and I was exaggerating. I never win. I'm still very much in love with him, and care deeply for him. He has a lot of baggage and I'm worried about turning my back on him. What do I do?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 March 2015):
 If you can handle dating an emotional yo-yo - he IS the guy for you.
If you want stability and a healthy relationship where honesty, trust and communication are key, he isn't it.
He Is however being honest with you, but I'n not sure it's actually for your benefit. He told you about his casual fling to let you know you are easily replaceable and he isn't looking for anything serious.
My thoughts? I think you have "wasted" enough time on this guy. I'd cut the contact 100% and move on, look elsewhere for love.
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