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writes:Hi, well I dont really know what to do. My boyfriend is what you would call a "juvinille delinquent" I guess. But i love him soo much! My parents dont approve because now he is in juvi. We've had sex alot and I really care about him. I know he would never do anything to hurt me, but my parents have a different thought. I dont want my parents to get in the way of our love. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2010):
I knew you wouldn't listen. How tiresome. How immature. He's in juvi, so he's a criminal. Now I know you won't listen to sense, you might as well go and join all the other girls who have made bad decisions with men as well.
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reader, xotruelove14ox +, writes (28 September 2010):
lol scratch the part about getting you in trouble (you never said what he got in trouble for lmao)
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reader, xotruelove14ox +, writes (28 September 2010):
Hey that sound just like my brother and his ex-gf, he is 16 and she was 20, they had sex..... a lot... and they loved each other, but they broke up (she's a bitch but I love her she's like my sister even though they broke up its complicated) and she still loved him and now my brother is in juvy and she is in jail, and yeah the whole 8 yards, just saying, you kinda reminded my of my brother (I mean like what happened, and my parents also don't approve of their relationship, lol) but for now I would just stop having sex and work on your relationship more, you might find out that its really not worth it, he could get you in a lot of trouble (if he decided he wanted you to go and commit crimes with him)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 so bud, he is in "juvi" how cool is that btw, and being in 'juvi' means he has a record, a criminal record, bud, and having a criminal record makes somebody a criminal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): stop having sex! a relationship built on sex cant last! try this tell him you dont want to have sex anymore and see how long it lasts. but about him going to juvi hes a tenager. that doesnt make him a terrible person or an undatible loser. is he still doing the type of thng that got him in trouble in the first place? if he is then maybe he should have some time to sort things out and get bac on the right track but if he has been staying out of troble then why cant yo goout? but you shold obeyyour parents
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (28 September 2010):
Caring Guy seems to have the answer covered. I hope you listen to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionreally. first of all we do love eachother. iv been going out with him for 3 years. he went to jail for smoking and has smoked since he was 13 when i met him! so bud he is not a criminal.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Love? Bullshit. Your parents are right to worry. Ok, I can understand if he seriously messed up once, but 2 times? There will be a three and then, jail where if you stick around, you get to write him letters and financially support him and your 5 children while he works on getting back in jail.Having sex a lot doesn't show me he loves you. If he tried hard to stay out of juvie to be with you or tried to show your parents he respected and cared for you and was a decent human being-thatd be different. But having a lot of sex with you just shows me he's having fun with an underage girl. Were you even safe? Were condoms used or did he want to "feel close to you"? Read up on juvie statistics. I've known guys who went to juvie-one is my older half brother, a guy who made his ex have 7 abortions cuz he didnt like condoms and at 30, works as a busboy with no high school diploma and two kids who wouldnt spit on him if he were on fire.Your parents have loved you ALL your life, and will until they die. They care.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 September 2010):
Now, you're being a typical teenager and not listening to good advice.
He's a criminal. Pure and simple. And he's been sent to a juvenile prison because he's a criminal.
Also, he and you have been having sex illegally.
No wonder your parents don't approve. This is their nightmare! this is every parent's nightmare! You're going with a guy who is a criminal, has sex with you underage and is now locked up. He's a loser!
And how do you know he won't hurt you? He's already proved he's a crook, hasn't he? You say you know him. Do you? A lot of people knew the two boys who shot everyone up in Colombine High School. Think they thought that the shootings would happen? And what about all the other young juvi's who've been to prison and come out and been in prison. And how about the 1 in every 4 women who suffer domestic abuse?
No wonder your parents are concerned! This guy can't officer you anything! He just uses you for sex, is a criminal and gets send to juvi. There's not love there at all.
I'm hoping unlike other teenagers, you'll be smart and see that this guy is making you into a total joke by treating you and others this way. If you don't, your life will be left in ruins.
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