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36-40,
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writes:Hello,I am in desperate need of some advice. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now, we met at university and promptly moved in together when she finished her course. After I finished uni I was between jobs and unemployed for a while whilst she supported me through it all (she had a steady job). I have been employed now for the last year and I have just been offered (and accepted) a permenant job abroad in the states. My dilema is this; I love my girlfriend but she can't come with me (due to my being sponsored for a visa and her not). I dont know what to do. We both want to stay together and give it a go, but I am afraid that I am too weak and I will hurt her. I know that sounds like a cop-out but put yourself in my position; the first and only proper relationship either of us have ever had, both lost our virginity to each other and have been through so much over the last few years. We barely ever argue (when we do its silly things that we laugh about later) and we truely do love each other. I really dont want to break up but I worry that I am going to be tempted whilst away and I would never want to hurt her like that. The thing is that I still see us in the future, and I see us having a family and a home and everything, its almost like I need a quick break to scratch this itch and have it over and done with, but I know that would kill her and her family whom I am so close with. Also she is going to move to Canada next year to be closer to me, thats how dedicated she is to us and I cant wait for her to be close to me again.Please help, I dont know what to do or what is going to happen. I just need some friendly advice and a shoulder to moan on.Thanks you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): sounds like u guys love each other and if that is true dont break up. ya ppl get weak but u trying to be strong and not falling into temptations, will make her appreciate u more and u will be so proud of yourself for doing so. just hold it out untill she comes closer to u.
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