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writes:Ok so I'm sure you all have heard this story a billion times, but I never thought it would happen to me. Last night I ordered some pizza to this girl's house that I don't like as a joke, and now my girlfriend tells me her parents said she is grounded from me for a month. I still don't know what that has to do with us. She called me this morning and said we have to break up and her dad said he doesn't want me to come around. I just don't know what to do right now, I love her and I don't want to lose her. Her parents took her phone and she can't talk to me. I am hoping I can talk to her parents and work things out but I'm scared to call to talk to them. I can't lose her she means the world to me. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I've decided to call her parents and ask if I can come over tonight to sit with them and talk this over. I really hope it works. thanks for all the advice everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): It's time to call her parents, wish me luck. I'm really nervous about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I will apologize to the other girl and her parents. I'm going to call my gf's parents tonight to try to set things straight. I'm really nervous about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Oh my! You have 2 sets of parents mad at you. As I said before, bide your time and let this blow over. Then go to your gf's parents and tell them you have apologised to other girl and her parents, which I hope that you do. Make sure if the other girl's family paid for the pizza, that you pay them back. That is all you can do at this point, hun. Is to show them that you have taken responsibility for what you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): yes that is the case here, the pizza didn't go to my gf's house, it went to a girl that i really don't like, which i understand was a stupid and immature thing to do. I don't know what happened with the pizza, but the girl's dad called my gf's parents and told them about it, that's how they found out. Now her parents think im "bad news" and said she cant see me ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I am sure you are a nice young man, but sometimes silly actions like this will mistakenly, tell others the wrong impression, that we are not who we truely are. I think this is the case here. I have to ask, Was the pizza guy rebuffed, when he arrived the gf's house? If not, Who paid for the pizza when it arrived? Did you prepay it..or did your gf pay for it? Did the parents? I am thinking perhaps, not. If the pizza was paid for, by the parents, then I think the best you can do is approach them and apologise, with the cost of the pizza, in hand.It doesn't matter if the parents can't take a joke, or if this seems silly to some and that it's no big deal. The fact is..the parents did not like this and took what you did, as a sign of disrespect to them. I think if you want to be back in this female's life, you should bide your time, give this a week or two to blow over and then ask if you can speak to them. Earning their respect and trust will take time..watch your actions and always display integrity, in the future. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): she is 16 so i guess her parents can do whatever they want
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): How old is your gf?
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Your girlfriend got her phone taken off her ( I assume she is the same age as you - 18-21) because you sent pizza to some girl??? Whas that pizza poisoned or it was a pizza made out of poop? And how did they get a sniff of this?
This all just sounds ridiculous.
In America people aged 18 or above can get married, have babies and buy guns (not sure if you have to be 21 for this) and for buying a poor girl that you dont like a pizza you can get grounded. Geez.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Joke = every one laugh
Bully = not everyone laugh, and there's usually a victim.
Sorry dude, we just don't have the same sense of humor. Mine is "joke" yours is "bully".
It's ok not to like someone, but it's not okay to bring her down because of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): thanks for the replies, I guess that could be why they don't want her with me. But I am rarely ever mean to others and that's the first time I have ever done anything like that. I am not a bad influence on her and her parents know that. I am always helping her with homework and helping her study. And I've been nothing but nice and polite when I'm around her parents. I really need to talk to them but I'm scared to call her house
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Her parents sound really unfair. Let me get this straight, they are punishing HER for something YOU did?
It's not like you are their child as well.
They probably did this because they are worried about you influencing her. Regardless of whether you are sorry or not for your actions, apologize to your gf's parents, and hopefully things will eventually get better.
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reader, for_a_reason +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Your parents probably think that you're a bad influence on their daughter - which you can't blame them for, they obviously heard about the pizza incident and well, it wasn't a very nice to do!
The only thing I can suggest is to slowly earn their trust back. I know it sounds silly, but maybe write a letter and be honest to her parents - tell them that you have no intention of 'corrupting their daughter!' Failing that, sit the month out - do what they want and hope that if you prove that you're trying to be on your best behaviour around them then they'll come around.
Good luck!
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