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writes:hi its been over i month me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up, neither of us really wanted to break up but it just ended up happening and i love her to death but we both did some stupid things that we cant forgive eachother for in that month, how do i get her off my mind, ive tryed talking to other wemen ... even put myself out there and had a few girls on the go at once seeing if i would like any of them or if it could bring me to be a happier person... but it seems it doesnt do a thing it just makes things stay the same and feels like ill never like another girl as much as i did my ex because we had plans of moving in, and she was also my first. we were together for a year and she just started getting jelous for me even talking to other wemen or going out with friends while she was at work... i stayed home because i loved her so much and didn't want to upset her... but then once i got tired of it i told her im going out with a couple friends and she freaked out threatened to break up with me and such... this happened a few times over and over and over. why cant i seem to lower my standards? and find somone more fit for me? that treats me better then she did... and why does my thoughts keep telling me to beg for her back... i really dont know what to do anymore she was honestly the love of my life and now i just feel completely alone, its like im living in a cloud ... really hard to explain it feels like i dont really care about much anymore i go to clubs... hook up with random girls and just dont give a shit anymore and dont know how to get my life back on track and her out of my mind. she texts me still every week approx and says stupid stuff like why did u call my fone? cuz she just looking for a response from me and the odd time she will say i miss you... and truthfully i miss her too and i tell her that but then 2 hours later she will say nvm i cant forgive u for the things u have done... which isn't anything bad i treated her amazing... and she just started lieng to me and sneaking behind my back saying she was home when she was out with her friends drinking at another dudes appartment... when i found that out i just got sick and tired of it, and we broke up and she claims she lied to me because she was scared of me? but im not a violent person emotionally or physically im the wudn't hurt a fly type of guy :s i just like to watch movies and cuddle with her and spend as much time as i could around her but how can i be with her if i cant trust her... i just dont kno what to do can somone please help i want to erase her from my mind shes out having fun with friends and meeting new guys :s and i just cant handle it because thats how much i cared for her, how cud she do that to me so easily like literally the next day after we broke up she told me she was intrested in some kid younger then her idk if it was to spike my attention or not but it set me off i was so hurt... and in the last month i literally just went crazy ive been pritty severly depressed can somone help me
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reader, missingyou  +, writes (13 October 2010):
Get out while u still can! If you get back with her she will know the power she has over you and will continue to hurt you and things WILL get worse. Trust me! I have been in this situation for 10 yrs and now I feel like this awful addiction to my ex. I know first hand how hard it is when you are trying to get over someone but if she really did love you she would stop doing what she is doing and try her hardest to prove to you that things can work out. Please move on and don't do this to you. You sound like a great person and someone is out there that will love and respect you but you have to respect yourself first.
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reader, jambo427 +, writes (29 September 2010):
jambo427 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u all :)
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Hello. x I am really sorry you are feeling this pain. You could always just tell he how you feel, and say to her ' 'please do not oontact me unless you want the relationship back, as I need to move on with my life.' she needs to know how much she is upsetting you, and if she does, and contiunes to behave the same way she is acting very selfish. The more she contacts yu = the harder it will be to get over her. Do you have some nice freinds and family who can support you through this? natmariexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): as a girl i can tell you exactly what is going on:
She sends random texts, saying why u called her phone, then i miss u, then nevermind.... she wants your attention. She definitely misses u but she is also toying with u. I would know this because ive done this to my ex ... it is just something that a lot of women do.
She knows u feel strongly about her, therefore she is using that to keep herself in ur brain.
now if u want to forget about her, just dont answer her texts, as matter of fact just block her number. take her off ur facebook, myspace, tweeter if u have one .... just stop any type of contact with her. Find new hobbies, like going to the gym, play sports, get interested in new TV shows, hang out with your friends, KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!!!
dont try to get involved with someone just to forget about her, just give urself some alone time to recuperate and make new friends.
you are too young to be so hung up on someone, move on and live your life to the fullest.
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reader, xotruelove14ox +, writes (28 September 2010):
Okay, I didn't even read the whole thing because it was pissing me off, and I wanted to answer ASAP! First, never EVER I'm begging you get back together with her.! She is extremely selfish, and even though you love each other so much, she was making you so miserable! And you keep thinking about her and can't get her out of your head because you LOVE her.! It is going to take a while to get over her. Honestly, I'm just going to suggest getting ONE! (I CAN NOT EMPHASIZE THAT ENOUGH.!!) Girlfriend, and eventually you will fall in love with someone new and forget about your ex. (Maybe not stop loving or even completely get over/forget.) I know this sounds rude but she really pisses me off and I don't know her (and I'm not just talking about her there are tons of girls like that); but I think girls like her should go die in a hole. I mean obviously a girl might get jealous of another woman or whatever. But there is no reason why you shouldn't be allowed to go hangout with a few friends instead of sitting alone bored while she is at work... I hope all works out well for you.!(:
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