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writes:I would like some advice on my situation. Thanks your first for reading this. I am a 35 years old lady and divorced once. Now I am really looking for the right guy and have a happy relationship and family. I met a nice guy 2 and half months before. We like each other. He is in late 40's and no children as well. I think we are heading the direction to know each other more and see whether it will work to have a long time relationship. One week ago he asked to move in together in next month when we can rent another bigger apartment.His old lease will finish at the end of this month. Is that too soon to move in with him?Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand your situation and i am totally agree with other's suggestions.
I made a same mistake last year when i met a professional guy. His financial situation is good. Also his lease due and he asked me the same thing as he need to decide whether to rent a bigger one for two people.
Although my best girlfriends try to stop me, i still moved in with him. I think you should let guy chasing you a little longer to get what they want. they will cherish you more.
If he likes you, he will continue to chase you when you decided not moving in. maybe respect you more. I am in the similiar age with you, i do feel the pressure of time. But i found if you feel the pressure of time , rushed into the things, the result is mistake happen.
take time to thoroughly know a man before that big decision until one day you both really feel that live together, not because of the lease.
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reader, couchcat  +, writes (8 July 2012):
oh yeah that is way to soon!! sounds to me he could possibly be wanting to use you as well, maybe to pay all the rent etc. you dont know him well enough to know his financial situation either. i wouldnt trust that at all. regardless that is not a good idea, no matter how much you may like him. i just dont like how that sounds on his part, something seems fishy to me...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 Personally I wouldn't do this...you don't really know him well enough and you could be bringing a load of trouble onto your head.
I think Aunty Susie is right and he's just rushing it because his lease is ending.
Do you know why his lease is ending, does he have any arrears in his rent payments??? You need to find these things out for sure before you sign a lease with him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (8 July 2012):
 You met him 10 weeks ago, I think that is much too soon to be considering moving in together, way too soon. Your relationship with him is still in the first flush, and you are both still on your best behaviour. There has been no time for the little personal habits we all have that others need to learn to live with to surface.
Ask him to renew his current lease for 6 months to give you both time to enjoy the newness of your relationship without jumping straight into a living together arrangment. Moving in together is a BIG committment, and required a lot more than 10 weeks of knowing each other.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (8 July 2012):
 It's only too soon if it feels that way. Do you think he is rushing things due to his lease ending? It's not ideal if that is the case. Does he know that what you are looking for is a relationship AND a family? Maybe he's got to be in his late forties and child-free for a reason! Best discuss that one sooner, rather than later :-).
Don't rush into anything if you feel that the time isn't right. Best of luck.
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