He stood me up to be there for his ex. Should I give up on him?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I met this guy at a get together I was at with some of my friends. We ended up talking for the whole time and by the end of the night we had exchanged numbers and were planning to talk/hang out sometime. He asked me to be friends on facebook and it was then that I realized that he had a girl friend. When I saw this I totally toned it down and to be honest I stopped talking to him all together. I'm a pretty busy person and wasn't planing on starting any conversations seeing as a hardly knew him. About a month later he randomly called me and we talked for hours. He was really interesting and I enjoyed talking to him. It wasn't until the end of the conversation that I found that he had only recently been broken up with by his girl friend. We talked through email and phone conversations for a little over three weeks before we finally hung out by getting ice cream. After this we started talking non stop and he told me that he really liked me. He knew that I had feelings for him to and he sometimes even slipped and called me his girl friend. He even went as far as telling me that he was going to ask me out then next time he saw me. (something that kept getting pushed back) I'm a cheerleader and so he was going to come watch me cheer and then we were going to dinner. By half time I knew that he wasn't going to show up. I called him and he basically told me that he was on the phone with his ex (why he didn't show up) and that she was almost suicidal from missing him. He "broke up with me". Saying he couldn't help her and be in a relationship and that no body should have to deal with the guilt of knowing they were the reason for someones death. I was pretty angry, for one we weren't really even dating, and I had to be the one to call him like he didn't have the guts to tell me. He said that he still really wanted to talk to me and be friends... so I waited to see if he was going to text me or something. He never did until he send me something saying he still really liked me but he felt that he should back off so I could get over him...? wtf soon after we "broke up" he had deleted me as a friend on facebook. I'm sort of done with him although I'm still totally into him... should I just move on? He was hot but I mean not irreplaceable I guess.

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