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writes:Hello. i'm a freshman girl in high school and I honestly have liked this kid for the past few months now. We started talking a lot and things started as very little friends to flirting all the time. He calls me beautiful, i'm perfect, i could be a model, so kind, or just randomly compliments me at times. I flirt back too and its obvious to him that I like him. But tonight I really wanted to step it up and by the way he was it acting it seemed like he did too. So i said "So you know i really like you and everything and you do too... and you know.. you know what i'm getting at" and he knew it was about dating. Then he came with the "I would say yes to a beautiful and amazing girl in a heartbeat but I cant date for another 2 years...". After he said that my heart sank and the tears came out and they still are. I don't want to wait 2 years but I surely don't want to forget about him. We like each other so much... What do i do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 September 2016):
 While it is frustrating for you, there is no harm in just being friends for the two years, he won't forget about you if you two still hang out together, and at least in two years you will be a bit older to make better decisions, enjoy being a teenager, you are quite young still so just enjoy being his friend and see how it goes.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 September 2016):
 He probably is telling the truth. My teens have classmates who can't date for a couple of years. I think the parents hope to prevent teen pregnancies and drama.
So for you, I'd advice you stop flirting and stick to being friends.
Maybe find out if they are OK with him hanging out with a girl. If not... maybe you just have to wait.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 September 2016):
 Ahh, the old parental age restriction. I always was so mad as a kid because while my parents didn't care when my brothers dated, *I* had to wait until I was 16 to date one-on-one with a guy! Sounds like the guy you like has a similar age restriction if you and he are about the same age!
Find out from him if they allow group outings like my parents did, maybe a double date, or a group of friends going to the movies, where maybe you two sit a little bit apart from the rest of the group, or something like that.
Don't get upset if he's really telling the truth about it. There are ways to satisfy the "We're not dating yet" clause, yet it's a date. School sports, dances like homecoming, you can get creative to where he's not going against his parents' will, but you two can still be together.
Also, one way of maybe possibly bending the rules is if his parents really like you. They might "give exceptions" if they think you're a really good girl who shares their values and so on.
Don't lose heart! I highly doubt you'll have to wait 2 years before having any sort of contact with the guy. But make sure he's telling you the truth about this.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (17 September 2016):
 What a sensible young man. Take a leaf out of his book. You have the rest of your life to date. Enjoy being a child.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 September 2016):
 It's possible he's just toying with you, but you're both very young, so it's probably a good idea to wait until you're both a bit older and more mature.
Be patient and, if you really like each other, two years will do no harm.
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