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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've been going out wit a man for a couple of months now our realtionship is ok and he can be quite caring i know he loves me alot although he doesnt actually show me himself that he does. Because of this i've been made to feel like i am worthless lately my confidence has been on a low in the time i have been with him and i don't feel 100% happy to be with him anymore.I just dont feel like there is any excitement or fun in the relationship as i feel were two differnt people, although im not sure of what i want to do about the situation as when i become sure of what i want to do things change and seem better between us both. Also i've recently met another man he is just a friend but i've started to have some feelings for him and dont know whats best to do. please help if you can. thank you very much for any response
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (5 March 2007):
 The good news is you've identified a problem. The bad news is you're considering being unfaithful. You've only been with this guy a couple months so you don't have too much time invested in the relationship. Just do the right thing. If you're not happy with one guy, end it before you start the new relationship. That way you are showing integrity....That is the correct way to handle this.
You shouldn't run away from problems so easily though. You should try to fix them, if not, then move on.
By the way, nobody can make you feel anything, only you. IF he's not giving something you need and you're aware of it, it's his fault not yours. Why do you assume it's your lack of worth. It's not. It's his lack of giving. So by assuming it's you, YOU make yourself feel worthless.
If you talk with him and resolve the issues, that's good. If you look to someone else to make you feel worthy, that can lead to problems, as you've experienced. Of course we all like some recognition fromour mates but it's not the only thing we should live for.
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