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writes:Hi, I've been dating a married man for more than one year. He was never happy in his marriage and during our dating year, I gave him advice about how to protect himsel financially, etc. He is now divorcing his wife and going through a mediator. Many times while he was married, I tried to end the relationship and each time he would tell me how much he loved me, to wait for him, etc. Now that he moved out of his house, he started going to bars, having sex with other women and looking for "the one" who would make him feel "something" special but he doesn't know what that "special" thing is. He said he loves me but will never fall in love with me. Then he talks about us sharing a lot of things, having a lot of things in common as well as sharing a very high energy level. He still looks for me for sex and eventhough we had it twice since his divorce proceedings started, I can feel the feelings he had before are not there. I told him our sex relationship stops here and we will continue being friends only. I think sometimes he is confused and going through that divorce face where they feel free and want to meet as many women as they have never been able to meet before. I am confused and sometimes don't know what to think.
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reader, cocotte +, writes (9 May 2011):
cocotte is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. As brutal and hard as it sounds, you are all telling me the truth and it's probably time for me to let go and move on (I know, it is easier to say it than to act on it). I doubt things will change but I will keep you posted if anything happens.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 I think your relationship finished when he left his wife. Your role as 'the other woman' is no longer needed, it's over. And really, would you want to make a life with a man who cheated on his wife? Time to treat yourself better, and expect more from life.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 I think you have been played.
Sure, it could be just a phase , going a bit crazy in the aftermath of his divorce, and catching up on the freddom and adventure he has been " missing out ".
But, what he said : I love you but I'll never fall in love with you... translated in plain, brutal language simply means : I think I can do better and hotter than you.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (9 May 2011):
what he is doing is 100% wrong and stupid
but i think all of this is because of his divorce
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