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writes:Hi ppl,im 19 yrs old and i was in a relationship for 3 years,we broke up coz he cheated on me twice..he says he loves me..it seems like im the girl he has a serious relationship with,but flirts around with other girls too..i broke up with him several times bcoz of this reason..but each time after the breakup he begs 4 another chance and i keep repeating the same mistake by giving him another chance..i just cant stop thinking about him:-( mayb bcoz he's my 1st love..iv been in other relationships since him,but yet i just cant get him outta my head..i get involved with other people thinking that eventually i might forget him but thats so hard2do..i love him madly..but i know its time to move on with my life..please tell me a way to forget him completely as im going crazy..please help me..thnx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): i am 21 years old i have been with my husband since i was 18, i got pregnant at 19 and the whole time i was with him i kept pushing him away because i thought he would leave anyway, that was my biggest mistake. and so i left to stay with my mom because i thought i could end it. and i didnt realize how much i loved him until he was gone. well he kept coming around and saying he wanted to be with me but i found out later he was with another woman. it crushed me. well when i forgave, but not forgot, that we tried again. we moved away thinking it would be good for our family. well all went well for awhile. then the bills got behind, stress got high and egos got bruised, stress was high. and i couldnt take it so once again i tried to leave but my excuse was i needed help with the baby while i went back to school to get my degree. well i still tried to make it work and he cheated again, but this time he says its just sex, and that i have him emotionaly, and that while we have good sex he is going through a mid life crisis and just needs to do this, i will be the one he spends the rest of his life with. but i cant take the fact that he is with another woman. but for some reason i cant let him go, its like im not strong enough. i know he loves me but i need him completely. so i know what you are going through. if you can get out do it. you keep going back and he thinks you will never leave and he can control you
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (23 June 2007):
Dont talk to him. Resist the urge to contact him. you will get sick of thinking about him eventually. Take this as a chance to look at yourself in the mirror and discover yourself.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 no matter how hard you try u just can't seem to get him out of your head its just what happens with ur first love but u can get him out of your head but don't go finding some1 else as it will make u feel worse. stay away from him the only reason why he comes back to u is because he knows he has a hold on u. once u tell him no and u man it with all ur heart and soul he will leave u alone. just keep tellin him no and everytime he tries u will feel stronger and soon u will relase u r so much more happier with out him and this is when u will get over him it will be a slow process but u will get there. good luck sweetie xxx
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reader, miss fit +, writes (22 June 2007):
your 1st love is always difficult to get over, but to put it bluntly this guy is a womanising arrogant pig and deep down you know you dont love him, the only reason you can't get him out of your head is because you can't get over what hes done. move on.
xxx miss fit
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 hi
believe me its not easy to forget someone u once loved and secured a space in your heart hoping to spend a lifetime with. he cheated on you more than once and u forgave him i think that was fair enough. now u gotta move on.
open your heart to someone else not with the hope of replacing your ex but because u believe he is the right person u want to be with. if you keep looking for a replacement u will never find it because it shows that you are allowing your past relationship to determine your future ones. do you know the saying "love like u have never been hurt" this rule prepares u to look forward to better things without living under the shadow of your hurtful past relationships. it gives u the hope that there is life after him.
do not hate yourself for not forgetting him because our memories can not be erased but we can forgive past mistakes so that they do not hold us back. good luck
Jovial
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