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writes:I have fallen in love with a man 8 years younger than me... I am 35 he is 27... Does this matter? I didn't know his age until very recently, I thought he was about my age, I thought he was 30/31. We've not yet had a sexual relationship but I do love him a lot. I just don't know whether its morally correct. Should I back off and allow him to find someone his age even though it will break my heart because so far he seems to be the man of my dreams! Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Henry1980 +, writes (10 June 2015):
No problem at all- my girlfriend is nine years younger than me, we've been together for six months and its wonderful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThansk everyone weight off my mind. I think my sister calling me Mrs Robinson made me feel a bit anxious. I love him a lot and if I could be with him all hours of the day I would be. ?? he's never expressed concern but its been on my mind that maybe its wrong but happy to see others are out there happily together with similar age gaps.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 June 2015):
 He isn't 15... He is 27. So don't think there is anything MORALLY "wrong" in seeing him, dating him etc.
IF he is single and YOU are single what is the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): I am 48 and my partner of 7 years is 40.
We sometimes joke about the fact that when I was 18 he would have been 10. I didn't know him then and obviously wouldn't have dated him even if I did!
There's no problem as you are both adults and free to do as you choose.;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 June 2015):
 if you are single and he is single and you want this and he wants this then I see no issue with it.
Why in the world would a man being younger than you be morally incorrect???
I'm 55. My husband of nearly 3 years just turned 42....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): I personally think that age is all relative. If the two of you get along, and are compatible in other aspects of the relationship, then what difference really do 8 years make? When you're 50, he'll be 42. When you're 80, he'd be 72. At that age, it doesn't seem to be that big of a gap at all does it? My fiance is 33 and I am 21, yet we never notice the age difference and couldn't be happier together.
As long as you're both happy, I really don't see what the problem is.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (9 June 2015):
No there's nothing morally wrong with it at all - you're both adults who can make rational decisions. At 27 he's hardly an impressionable schoolboy anymore.
So, if he's up for it as well, there's no reason (moral, legal or religious) why you shouldn't.
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