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He is so confusing!

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Question - (12 October 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 October 2010)
A female Philippines age 30-35, anonymous writes:

we were friends for a long time.. we met during our review for our nclex exams. we were always talking during our review about our life, lovelife, dreams and hopes.. he is silent but becomes talkative when we talk.. after our review, we go to coffee shops to study more (only the 2 of us).. after we took and passed the exams, we havent seen each other for days for the fact that he went back to his province..

weeks after, he texted and told me he is back and asked me where would i apply for work. i told him where and he applied. he asked me out for the first time and those were followed by 2 other movie outings with his cousins.

one night, we went to a bar with friends and we suddenly got drunk. he kissed me and so did i, he just told me to forget this tomorrow. so the next day, i totally ignored what happened to us and act as if we are still friends and nothing change. a week after that, we went to a bar again and he kissed me the 2nd time. when we become sober, i asked him if he likes me. he said he do and so i said i also do like him.. but after that, he seemed to act the opposite as what he says. He never talked to me in the hospital where we worked. he always ignore me and he even said he like that certain girl he works with in his area to others but when i ask him he says he dont like her but he got her number! and so, after that i told him, what does he really want.. he said, he dont want to lose me and he cares for me a lot, he have been single for quite awhile he dont know how to handle things. he wants to be frens for now. and when he is ready, he wants me to be there.. and so i ignored him, he ignored me after that.. after days of not talking, he texted tht hell be transferring to another workplace and asked me if i will also go.. because i like him, i did apply and then again.. we work in another workplace together but then still ignoring each other.. i wonder tht everytime i ignore him for days, he would eventually text or chat to me, and everytime i feel like texting him frequently.. he ignores me.. does he like me as a friend? or something more?? why does he ignore me? why dont i feel importnt? what does he want??? he is so confusing.. if he likes me.. why wont he push through??? but on the contrary, if i need help.. such as emotional advices.. he is there..

take note:

= when we had his nyt duty one time, he ddnt woke up and went with me on our scheduled outing togther.

= he never gave me something special on my bday

= he always talk about other girls and how they are cool, he even ask other's opinion but not to me anymore

=he didnt look at me in the eye when he said he likes me

=he is the silent type and the shy type bt when drunk, he tells all

=he said, i never did hurt him and he never fell in love

what does he want?? does he love me???? or is he playing games?? ;( he is soooo confusing.

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A female reader, sweetlove United States +, writes (12 October 2010):

sweetlove agony auntits obviouse he just wants to be friends with benefits. If you want to be his friend in that way then mess with him back but if he dosnt want more than that but you do, then kick him to the curb.

Or maybe he just donst want to hurt your feelings. Dont let him get to you if he is not taking you seriously.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010):

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im shy to ask him what he really feels.. im afraid hell say all he can offer is friendship for now.. ;(

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