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writes:I met this guy almost a year ago, we became friends and started talking a bit. I started liking him but found out that he has a girlfriend so in my head I kind of labeled him as well just a friend even though I liked him.One day I dont even remember how it got brought up, he asked me a personal question but said I dont have to answer if it was too personal, I don't remember what the question was but I remember I amswered it so then he asked me more personal questions, one was what all I've done sexually and well I was a virgin so i said that.anyways so he's asked me questions like when im planning on having kids, if I was gonna let him take my virginity; one time he said how we could move to vegas (I don't remember how it got brought up); and some more questions. Oh and he asked for nude pictures and stuff.anyways so I did end up letting him take my virginity and then he made it seem like it was a one time thing because he asked me if I was gonna have sex with his cousin. Which I don't want to. We were texting one day and long story short he would have sex with me again if I let him.I just need opinions because im really confused and have gotten mixed messages from him. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2015): Sorry but I think this guy is a player. He's not worth it.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (26 July 2014):
 Sorry but you've been naïve. He has told you all the right thing to get you into bed and enjoy a willing, tight virgin...now he just wants you as a sexual plaything.
if he would sleep with you behind his Gfs back then what does that say about him? Men will act all charming and treat you like its something special when they wanna get laid. Sorry but you have let yourself be used for sex.
As for trying to offer you to his cousin for a bit of fun, well...!
Mark
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (26 July 2014):
 I don't understand your confusion or why you need help with this situation because to be honest, this guy is using you and you're letting him. He had a girlfriend, which you knew of and he offered to take your virginity, which you let him- no confusion so far. . . I must say though that even if you're one of those people who wanted to rid themselves of which to them is a burden (their virginity), at least lose it to a single guy! The whole Vegas thing to me sounds ridiculous. This guy will tell you whatever trash he thinks will keep you jumping back into his bed. He doesn't want to and will never be serious about you nor will he leave his girlfriend for you so you know what I say? Dump him like a hot potato and leave him wondering what happened- either that or he won't even give a damn that you're not there anymore, he'd probably prey on some other poor girl. Leave this guy ALONE OP! There are plenty of single guys out there.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 July 2014):
 Pardon me, ...what mixed signals ?
The signals are loud , clear and unmistakeable .This guy has a girlfriend, has cheated on her with you, and he'll do it again if you help him- discreetly, NSA and at hs convenience. He does not even care if you should sleep wth his cousins, and sees you as a potential useful provider of sexual cheap thrills ( pics and stuff ).
What 's there to be confused ?!... Oh... because he said you should move to Las Vegas together ? ... Tell him " Las Vegas is far away, in space and time.... why don't we start with " here and now " ?. You cannot take me to Las Vegas yet, but surely you can take me out for dinner tonight ?..." and see him bolt away as fast as lightning !
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 July 2014):
 Eww he is just a super gross dude who wants to use you and then PIMP you out to his cousin?
Cut the contact, he IS NOT a friend.
CUT the contact because he will NOT leave his GF for you, that whole Vegas spiel was just to get in your pants, my guess is he figured out real fast just how naive you are.
Even IF you slept with him again, what good would it do you? You'd be "that kind of girl" who sleeps with other girl's BFs, who has no self respect.
HAve a little respect for your fellow women (that would be his GF) and yourself.
He sounds like a creepy douche canoe. Yuck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2014): Ouch. Sorry. It sounds like he just wanted to get your virginity, or at least have sex with you, because he could.
There isn't much more to say except don't give him anything else unless you want to. He will probably keep sleeping with you here and there if you let him but its doubtful that he will give up his GF. If you ever want anything more than sex from him then you need to demand it before sleeping with him anymore.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 July 2014):
 The only opinion I have is that he's cheating on his girlfriend. It's simple - you need to get away from him and not let him use you anymore. Any words a cheater says are worthless, so the whole Vegas thing is crap, and do NOT give him nude pictures, which is not smart at all. This guy is using you and profaning his girlfriend. Put yourself in her position...would you want him to do that to you? As in get another woman's virginity and get nude pics of her as well?
This guy is a dog and you're being played. RUN away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2014): He's just using you for sex when his girlfriend isn't in the mood he'll see if your interested and if your not he'll try and find another person who's interested. Why would you want a guy like him anyways? If he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you? The smart thing to do would be to get him out of your life or at least stop sleeping with another woman's boyfriend.
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