A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi my partner is been slightly distant with me, its only been recent. but he hass his phone 24/7, when he has no credit he is fine, but when he does have credit he takes his phone everywhere and takes forever in the toilet. he cant get on the internet so i no its not that. he txts and calls people but not that often. he blames it on him txtn me, but i only get 1 a day evn tho he lives with me. and his credit lowers dramatically. he has also recently started deleting texts and calls (recieved and outgoing). he only keeps my texts. its getting me reali paranoid ass i have been messed about by so many blokes and the thing is im pregnant with his child aswell. he doesnt know that i know. please help coz everytime i talk to him he starts an argument and gets defensive.
View related questions:
text, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Alex242 +, writes (15 April 2012):
Is his behaviour normal? Is that what you are asking?
I realise you are confused, and a million things are going through your head right now. On top of that, you are hormonal due to pregnancy.
It bothers me that this behaviour started only recently. One explanation is that men sometimes get bizarre when their wives/girlfriends get pregnant/give birth. Another could be something more unwholesome.
When they get defensive, it is usually not a very good sign, unfortunately. I've found them to usually be hiding something, sometimes just feelings they are having.
Try to find a time when things are very calm, and in as non-threatening a manner as possible, ask him his current feelings, or if owt is bothering him. Try to be as non-accusatory as possible, and low key. I know sometimes that takes a great deal of strength when summat is really bothering you. Perhaps you can get him to open up. Just be prepared to deal with his feelings/what may be bothering him.
It sounds he may be starting arguments to distract you from the discussion you are attempting to have. I know this is difficult, but try not to take the bait. Try to stay the course calmly. Perhaps rehearse scenarios in your head before trying again.
Do you have a course of action in mind if his answer proves to be less than wholesome?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis it normal?
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 so you believe him to be cheating?
and you are pregnant with his child?
what advice would you like?
you give us the info and say Please help...
do you want us to help you cope with his behavior?
do you want us to help you figure out an exit strategy?
what is it you need from us to help you?
...............................
|
