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writes:pleasee help me i am overly confused over an year ago i liked this guy and he liked me but he was talking to me and my friend at the same time,i found out and completely deleted his number and everything.after a week or so he got into a relationship and recently broke up with her. I deleted him off fb and when i saw him out i'd give him a dirty look. Now his single and his now ex has already moved on to a new guy. I re added him on fb because and honestly i dont even have a reason i think i'm just not over him. i sent him a message and ever since then we have been messaging each other for the past almost month or so . we write to each other with long long messages it feels like his across the seas and we miss each other and the only way to write each other is over the social network. My quesiton is why hasnt he asked for my number yet? and should i keep talking to him?. i mean he did play me like a fool but he was also interested in me before.should i continue talking to him and see where it leads? or should i just stop replying? please help me,i log on fb just to see if he messages me.please help meee
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 You where not in a relationship with him, therefore who he spoke to in the past really is his business and nobody else's. He was talking to you and your friend at the same time, but where is the crime in that? Yes he was keeping his options open, but he was not committed to either of you so therefore he was free to speak to who he liked, how he liked, that's life.
He is not long out of a relationship, so be careful. He has showing you before that he likes to flirt with a girl but if he has not made a move for the next step then I feel it is just harmless fun he is having with you again. You ask should you give this guy a second chance, but how do you know he wants anything more from you? You might just be someone he likes talking to and maybe flirting with but does not see you as potential girlfriend material.
If you like him then keep talking to him and see where it goes but don't expect to much from him, because he may still be on the rebound.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Hi,
I am going to point out what you said, and I am going to try my best not to be harsh...
1) he liked you before, but chose the other girl over you? So, now you reconnect? This mean you are 2nd choice..
2) you cannot truly believe/trust his words, or his behavior. You mentioned he just broke up with the ex? She already have new boyfriend? So, who knows his intensions? He might be trying to make ex jealous? You might be a rebound girl?
Yeah, there's a possilbility that he made the wrong choice, now he likes you!? But, that's all a maybe? I just don't like how all this started.... How he was talking to you, giving you hopes, and talking to this other girl at the same time? He didn't think about your feelings...nor respected you..
Don't think he played you a fool... It's not true.... It's not your fault... You are a kind, trusthworthy person, how are you supposed to know? You are not a mind reader... It's not your job to read peoples mind... You are a normal person, and I hope this experience doesn't change you... You meet new people everyday, and it's normal to trust them, that's the only way you become friends... Get to know each other.... So you didn't do anything wrong.
If you want to continue communicating with him, do so, but keep an eye open.... Do not open hour heart right away, take things slowly... Just watching after you, don't want you to get hurt again.
Good luck!
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