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writes: I just got out relationship with this guy, that I am not sure if I still love, or hate. We went out before, but I broke up with him because I wasn't feeling the love there between us. But i evolved a crush on him after the brake up, and we got back together again. We went out for 2 weeks, we made out alot, and everything seemed to be going great, we really trusted and cared for eachother. The problem is, THIS time, he broke up w/ me, for one of my sorta-kinda- friends, ( ya kno, when she thinks we r close friends, but u don't really like her much, but ya feel sry 4 her, so u hang w/ her ) well she made up this crap about her having problems sorta like his problems, and took him away from me. When he broke up with me, he kissed me and said that he still loved me so much......... well then why in the heck did he brake up with me? Ontop of not knowing my emotions towards him. I'm posotive that I have fallen for my best friend, uh... I'll call him Vinnie, so i don'tuse his actual name. He has so much in common with me, and is so sweet. I'm practically his closest friend, it's just sometimes I wonder if he loves me or if he will only want to be friends. I now Vinnie, and when something is even slightly wrong, he doesn't want anything to do with it anymore, the problem is, he keeps sending mixed signals and signs, and I don't know his true emotions for me, and I don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship. What do I do about all of this confusion?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Forget get the boyfriend you dumped, then dumped you for another, that is history.
Talk to Vinnie, find out if he likes too and go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Well you are probably best rid of your ex, so just forget him and also your 'friend'. It hurts when a so called friend ends up going with your exs, cos then you are wondering if they were eyeing them up when you went out with them. Anyway, just let them get on with it! The newer guy on the scene might of come along a bit too soon. You could be in a rebound mode. I would just gradually get to know Vinnie and not expect too much too soon. Let it happen gradually, if it is going to happen. Some men do send mixed messages. They want a deep relationship then they want to back off, they are hard to figure. Just be careful and keep a bit of a distance from him until you know him better.
Take care
xx
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reader, DearDolly +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Firstly you need to just forget about your ex. If he really cared about you he wouldn't run off with your "friend".
Secondly you need to be certain about "Vinnie's" feelings before you try to take things further.
Explain that you don't want to ruin the relationship you have with him now but you need to know if he feels the same.
Good luck.
Dolly.
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