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writes:I have a seven years old relationship with a gentleman who is accusing me of being unfaithful to him everytime i travelled overseas. I went overseas three times since we are together and he thinks i am having sexual intercourse with guys in those countries. He based his accusation on my period not coming on time (I also have fibroid) and he said, when i returned the sex with me usually feel different, in that my vagina always feels slack. I am so hurt and confused because i know it is not the truth. He goes overseas much more than me but no accusations about me being unfaithful when he returns. Could you please advice me? We are in the process of breaking up.
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I don't think there's anymore you can do. You told him the truth, and he is choosing not to believe. If the trust isn't there, there's no reason to continue.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (31 January 2010):
break up, get it over with and WHO CARES... the reason he's making the accusation is likely to be because he is cheating on you.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I suspect he is the one having sex when he is overseas, and he assumes you are doing the same. Plus if he shifts the focus off himself, he doesn't have to see his own unfaithfulness. Perhaps your vagina feels differently than the women he was screwing when he was overseas.
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (31 January 2010):
Don't be a fool. You can do much better than this immature man. Otherwise, your problems will never end.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
Keep on breaking up. Its clear this man has serious issues he needs to attend to. You could spend the rest of your life trying to convince him, and he still won't believe it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): For one thing, your vagina doesn't get slack from having sex. You deserve better than someone who would say that kind of thing to you. More importantly, in my experience of possessive, jealous men like yours, when they accuse you of something for no reason like this, it usually means they do what they accuse you of. For example, my ex partner always accused me of looking at other men and wanting to be with them more than him. I finally found out that was what he thought about other good-looking women he saw. I'm not saying he is cheating on you, but it is a possibility. (I wouldn't accuse him of it though!) The point is, no matter how many years you spend trying to convince him that you only want to be with him and would never cheat on him, it won't make a difference, but it will keep hurting you that he thinks that. I think breaking up is the best thing for you.
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