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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Can someone please help me shed some light on why this guy is being like this...About 5 years ago this guy and i were really good mates at work. We were on the same team and used to have lunch together, go to the gym at work and we had a laugh etc... There was no attraction - we were just friends and we both had partners. After he left our workplace we lost touch and then I found him on Facebook via a mutual friend 2 years ago- I added him as a friend and he accepted.I wrote on his wall, asking how he was and what he'd been up too but he ignored it. I then waited a few months before writing on his wall again and he did respond but just saying "hi, yea,I'm all good." I got the impression he didn't want to chat so I left it.When his daughter was born (he wasn't and still isn't married) everyone wrote on his wall to give their congratulations and I did the same- however he responded to everyone's post except mine.I really don't understand why he ignored me... At first i assumed his girlfriend might be jealous (I have never met her as he got with her after he left work) but then I noticed he has loads of female friends and there are so many photos of him with them on nights out hugging and dancing so I assume his GF isn't the jealous type.What upset me is this... Yesterday I was on my own in town and I saw him and his daughter - they too were on their own... I went over to say hi and when he saw me he looked really awkward and uncomfortable. We had a quick chat but he didn't really say much- if I'm honest it felt as though he wanted to get away.At the end of the day I would never bombard or bother anyone whoI felt couldn't be bothered with me. But his actions have hurt me. I'm tempted to send him a private message on Facebook asking if I've done something to upset him.I feel I need to clear the air. I understand time passes, people change but something isn't adding up with him.. What should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 his actions have hurt you?
why?
why is the attention of a man you USED to work with, that you are not interested in romantically so important to you?
It's possible at one time he was interested in you but you not in him and now he sees no reason to be friends...
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