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writes:I hooked up with this guy and really really like him! I had had his number for a while but never met up then one day I just said let’s meet. We met, slept together we spoke a little, he told me some of his likes little bit about his family, called me sexy and said I had the perfect body, I called him hot twice and then he said we should meet regularly. We also joked about he mimicked me said he can tell I’m shy and wondered what I’m like when I’m drunk. I agreed and arranged to meet him everyday this week but it hasn’t happened. He has ignored a couple of texts but replies a little later The problem is this guy is literally perfect for me from which I know... I told him I’m not out to family and he was cool with it. I don’t want to scare him off but I like him and want to get to know him abit more.What do I do?From our encounter does he like me too?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 July 2018):
 He sees you as a booty call not much else. If he was really interested he would not ignore you and he would put more effort into you...
If you want a f-buddy thing with him, make you you use protection every time.
If you want more than that... he isn't it.
I would also consider that if YOU want - as in a BF or life=partner you might need to find a way to share that with family, as long as you ca do that safely. Because there aren't many people who wants to be a "little dirty secret".
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2018): Dump, delete, and block! Forget about him! He's a dirt-bag!
Consider this is a learning-experience. Guys you immediately meet as hookups are the bottom-dwellers. They don't make emotional-connections, and it's all about sex.
I hope you used protected-sex. You can't be stupid or naive! You're young and have a lot of life still ahead of you. Don't go down this path!
If you want a case of herpes, HIV, or syphilis; be an easy hookup for guys like that. All they do is troll the internet for pretty women who are easy-lays; and they add you to their contact list, and ignore you until their busy schedule dries-up. He's making his rounds, and he'll holler at you when he gets around to it.
He's charming and playful. He's the classic player. He thinks you're dumb.
You want guys to really like you; then don't start-off everything by offering them sex as soon as they meet you.
You better wise-up, girlfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2018): I know it SEEMS like he's the perfect guy now, that maybe your hormones talking though. Take a step bcd from all of this, this bigger picture. I am sure he's got flaws. I think it's easy to create fantasies about other people. IN reality you don't know him at all.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (27 July 2018):
 He liked you enough to have sex. He'll probably like you again if he wants sex but other than that OP, you sort of screwed up any hopes of a real relationship. Its fine if you want to have FWB relationship but you need to understand the basic fact of that type of a relationship. No string attached. You have sex, hopefully you like each other but you do not get involved. The sad thing is that most people DO get involved, and the other party doesn't and there's the problem. If you really like someone, then hold out and don't sell yourself short. You have sex with someone the first time you meet, the odds are they are not going to respect you as anything more than a piece of meat. Sorry..truth hurts but I'm giving it to you straight.
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 July 2018):
 Sorry to burst your bubble, but I can’t see this progressing anywhere.
You slept together the first time you met him. In gonna take a guess that he’s now thrown you onto the easy pile. The fact that he agrees to meet and then doesn’t go through with it pretty much confirms that.
I had a similar mentality when I was younger. If I slept with a girl the first time I met them or spoke to them then I wouldn’t be interested in seeing them again after that. I’d say the same thing has happened here.
If he liked you don’t you think he would be happy to make plans? You would be better blocking his contact and moving on with your life, I can see any further contact from this guy being a booty call.
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