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writes: I fancy my teacher to bits, I think he might fancy me too but he is a teacher so it’s hard to decide. Everyone says hes a perv but i really like him. I spend evenings with him. He is really clever he loves to hear what i think. We’ve grown really close and i would like to call us friends. I know alot about him but he doesn't know much about me he asks me lots of questions but i am vague. He flirts with me alot but to be fair he is a flirt! But he treats me differently to anyone else, he's not popular with students everyone thinks he's disgusting but i know better. He’s always lovely to me he gets really close to me and he snuggled up to me on a desk once he guides me with his hands ever so gently sometimes and he tells me about his life. He laughs at everything I say even when it isn't remotely funny and he teases me mercilessly but always apologizes and never takes it too far. He told me I was lovely and he thinks all the boys fancy me. He is protective of me and stands up for me. He tries to make me laugh. He gazes into my eyes and he smiles when he sees me. He gazes at my breasts and shows all preening signals(brushing dust off lapels on suit, adjusting socks etc…)We were talking in his room once until everyone had gone and then I walked with him to car park and he asked me how I was getting home, it was caring and sweet and he almost offered me a ride home. His eyes are gooey when he looks at me and he rarely tells me off. We have our own little private jokes and he is sometimes surprisingly shy when he is with me. We have a lot in common and he tries his best to be nice to my friends even though he doesn't like them one little bit and my enemies despite whether he liked them before are instantly his enemies. He is more involved in my life than other teachers are, he has a sort of little boy quality about him even though he is a mature 38-42 year old he is scrumptiously cute and caring and he makes me feel like a woman. Two problems though excluding the fact that he is my teacher: I am 15 and he has a girlfriend. Even so i am a mature 15 year old and I have been told I look 18. Also I am scared that it could be real love. As my heart beats so hard when I am near him that my face feels hot and I can't think of anything but him, I know that when I hang round with him people will bully me and say i am sad but i don't care, i stand up for him when other people shout nasty things, i understand why he does things know most of his flaws but still i feel the same I still feel the same even when he is scolding me for forgetting my hmk. I forgive him easily for everything that he does; I don't feel jealous when he is with other girls because I love to see him happy. When he is sad I cry for him and when he is happy i am happy too. When i look at him all I want to do is hold him in my arms and tell him that I love him. No other guy seems to fill the gap in my empty heart his love is the only love I want. When he talks to me my knees turn to jelly and i can’t concentrate and my mind goes blank my heart pounds in my head and when I gaze into his eyes I feel loved safe and warm inside and almost contented. I would do anything just to make him smile. When I am with him in a noisy crowded place all I am aware of is me and him. He is always in my mind in the day, during lessons, even in my dreams. The more I see him the more I want him. When he is close to me and I can smell him, a mixture of expensive aftershave, musk, coffee and rude unspeakable things, it gives me such chills. Even when he looks rough,sad,ill,unshaved,smells,talks with his mouth full, his hairs unsightly and he shouts at me for no reason still all I want to do is hold him,look after him,make him feel better and bring a smile back to his face. I know theres no hope for us but i can wait if I have to until i am old enough to be with him I could wait 20 years if I had to. DO I LOVE HIM? Does he fancy me? Sorry for the entry being so long
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reader, charisma dela cruz  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 oh i had encountered same situation like you! but all i can say was you're still young dont focus yourself thinking about him.. i know you become happy after conversing w/ him. but better to think it on girl! he can be your father byb his age.. get curious about it.. look on the negative and possitive that might effect you life as a person. godbless!
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reader, holivia  +, writes (19 March 2010):
YES ITS STRANGE AND YES YOUR FRENDS MAY NOT like it but so what? ITS YOUR LIFE...!
you love him, he loves you, as you can tell by the way he treats you. But surely it's not right, you are under 18 he is over 18 by a mile, it's practically ilegal! I mean before your even 30, he's going to be a pensioner! It's not right, you'll find someone better than him for sure, he'll be the one for you. Even if you have to travel the world, you give up hope, you'll find someone. It may be a miserable experience, but its sumin 2 learn, sumin 2 find out bout. It's normal. Dont worry, you'll get over him even if it does take a while, a long time, don't worry. You'll always hav ur true frends by your side. And even if you had freinds that don't like the situation, that proves that their not ur real frends dunnit!? find someone that will be there 4 u, and a best frend, that will always be your best frend, no matter what happens. Good Luck, xx
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reader, holivia +, writes (19 March 2010):
Yes, it's strange, yes, your friends may not like it, but there are reasons for and against this.
For: You love him (to bits), you feel like he completes your life, he loves you back as everybody can tell from his body language and the way he treats you, you know you 2 are meant to be together! You both love each other, you know that you love him, even if he is 38 - 40, but so what? Love happens!
Against: It's WEIRD! I mean, a 15yr old in a relationship with a 40YR OLD???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): One thing you want to consider is to not do anything that would get him into trouble. I have a similar story however he sounds like a very nice man but doesn't realise that his acts of comfort could be misleading. Rather than wishing you had something more with him, which is a fantasy in most teenage girls, (there is nothing wrong with having a crush) but perhaps take it in a different perspective. Look to him as a father figure rather than thinking of rash decisions. It is not fair on him and it is not fair on yourself. People deem that teacher/student relationships are inappropriate, the only reason being is to protect the teacher and the student. This is a scenario which could get out of hand. If someone who doesn't like him, maybe a failing student of his, sees you with him when you are as you said 'snuggling' if a student were to report that, he would be investigated and fired. No school would touch him cause they wouldn't want the media attention. If his intentions weren't what you thought they were, you now have the worst of both worlds.
What I am saying is too stay connected with him through the years, when you graduate, and only when you graduate become friends. Good luck to you and I hope my answer was helpful. Just becareful in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Its okay I think i have a crush on my teacher and yes I do think you fancy him and if you could wait a couple more years you guys could be together just keep trying thats what I am doing
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): you story is like mine ;; i really fancie my teacher, hes absulutly gorgeous and loads of pupils fancie him. he laughs at evrything i say, and vice versa, even my mates says he lyks me more then the other people in out class, but lyk when i walk into his class i automaticly smile, and he smiles back, winks at me and his face honetsly lights up, he has gorgeous blue eyes and perfetc teeth. i stayed behind to help with my geography work once and i felt him touch my leg, i looked up and he was staring at me, my heart beated faster and faster. He teases me and sticks up for me, he never had a bad word to say about me :D, once he heard me sayinm to my friend 'oo hes so fit, i bet hes good in bed(giigling)' and i went bright red, but he laughed. i really do fancie him. Once he gave me a lift home and i leaned in to kiss him, he gave me a quick kiss on the lips and poligised staright away.
My advice is, stay friends with him but dnt let it take up your life x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I see many people have had encounters with their teacher. I feel that I am going through the same thing, only that it is on and off. There was a time when things were definitely going amazing and other times when we wouldn't talk. I never felt attraction to my teacher until a year after knowing him, and I wonder if the reason I started feeling attraction was because he felt it to.
The reason why I am confused about many of the signals is because he is a well-liked teacher and is close with a number of his students. I somehow am convinced it is different with me. He seems shy or intimidated at times, but the eye contact is firey, it stirs me. There is something behind it. There were occassions when I catch him checking me out. He'll compliment me and I catch on fire. I feel sometimes I may ruin the bond between us with my moodiness but I manage to reconcile with him.
He has nothing but good things to say about me. Flattery beyond belief. When he touches me, he's hesitant, as if he is concerned of appearing to eager or of what other students might think. I catch him looking at me but glazing over his glare by looking at the floor or someone behind me. Maybe he was staring at the person behind me, I don;t know. Sometimes he stands so close to I swear I just want to rip of his clothes and mine and press my body against his...Sorry for that break out in fantasy. I am not the person that goes too much into to detail so I won't do that here because of paranoid. That story that the young lady from England has was amazing, and is kind of my fantasy of my teacher. The thing is, it probably is the fantasy of many other girls in my school who thinks he loves them.
I just have this feeling of deep connection with him, that sometimes overwhelms me, and I kind of back away because I want him all to myself but like I said he is close with many other students, male and female. But the attention he gives me, the wonderful things he says about me, the way he looks at me, the way he touches me, and stands so close, it not only feels right, but it feels true and exclusive. I see him look away when I talk to other male students or hug them. I see him look to me to see my reaction as he interacts with female students.
One time I was walking to class and I saw him outside getting fresh air by himself. I greeted him and he returned the greeting and as I walked away, in the reflection of the door, I saw his head turn to watch me walk away, as if he were checking me out from behind. A rush of excitement just surges through me. I don't want any students to suspect anything, but they all know I think he is hot, we all do, but I keep the deep feelings to myself. I want to tell him one day when I graduate, but I don't know what situations we'll both be in then that might barricade that. There's too much signals I got to to tell, but no actual acting on anything. I'll see what happens in the next couple of months...I feel something between me and him about to be reborn...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): i know exactly how you feel and its good to see im not the only one who does.i am 19 from england and ever since i was 14 i fancied my geography teacher. i have been told that i look a lot older than my age and people are often surprised when i telll them my age. I have also been told i am pretty because i have long brunette hair and hazel eyes but ive never really thought that. he was 28 and i never really imagined anything would happen. i lost my virginity with an 18 year old boy when i was 15, not withh the teacher.At first, i just liked him a lot and he used to give me feelings i never experienced before, and i never told anyone but i knew it was just a crush. For months i paid extra attention in his lessons and he noticed i was because on my report he noticed how attentive i was. after about 2 terms of school, i noticed that he was looking at me a lot and every time i looked up, he was looking at me subtly. and i really began to startt fancying him and notice how actually amazing he was and how perfect he was with his blondy brown hair and ice blue eyes. i started to feel intense desire for him and constantly stare at him in lessons, and he did the same to me. i startd asking more and more questions and staying after class to go over work that i prentended i didnt understand. and even though he smiled at me i could feel that he was feeling nervous as he kept fiddling with his tie and pulling up his sock and when i asked if he was alright he just blushed and smiled with his perfect smile and said he had a bit of a headache because he didnt get much sleep the night before. so i said is it alright if i could go over my geography coursework with him the next lunchtime, as i was unsure what do do. at first he seemed a bitt reluctant but then willingly agreed.the next day when i went there he was 5 minutes late but when he walked in he appologised and looked happy. we sat down at one of the desks to begin working and he seemed tense so i brought up that the picture of a little girl on his deskk was sweet and he relaxed a bit and said it was his neice. as he seemed more relaxed i asked casual question about her. he seemed to enjoy it and asked me questions about my family, but after a while we went back to the coursework. when the bell rang i was really reluctant to go and he seemed a lot happier than usual so i smiled at him before i left and he said he looks forward to our lesson on mmonday. the thing is i never really noticed while i was talking to him, but after i left my heart was beating uncontrollably fasst and i felt sick and that night he was all i could think about.the following lesson he was more enthusiastic when i was there and he constantly looked into my eyes while he was teaching and was giving me flirty looks and when he was answering everyones questions he was answering them shortly, but with mine he really explained like he was writing a romantic novel (SORRY LIKE I AM NOW - ill be finished soon - i hope you dont mind)he started to talk to me a lot more and also i noticed him staring at my boobs and arse when he thought i wasnt looking and i thought this was just normal.a few months later unfortunatly my grandad and great uncle died within 2 weeks of each other and i was really close to them and what with gcses etc i was feeling really down and throughout the class he looked at me worried and concerned. he asked me to stay after class and peole gave me strange looks but i was quite glad to be with him. he asked me what was wrong and i said nothing but he looked deep into my eyes and asked me again and i just broke down crying and told him and he put his arm around me and i held onto him. he smelt amazing and i could feel him smelling my hair deeply and i thought his lips touched my head for a couple of seconds. when i calmed down a bit i noticed my mascara had run and i said "oh my god i bet i look awful" but then he surprisedme by quietly saying you look beautiful. i blushed and he looked embarrassed and like he had said something wrong. i told him dont worry and lightly touched his leg and gave him another hug to say thank you. i was feeling intense desires for him and he asked if i needed to talk about my loss and i said no thanks but he said maybe if i wanted too we could talk somewhere else and looked in awe of me and gazed into my eyes ccoming closer but i stood up and said maybe a coffee or something. by this time i was about 16, nearly 17we did have the coffee and it was so much more relaxed outside of school. we chatted a lot and about my grandadand when we left the cafe i kissed him on the cheek. he blushed and gave me a long hug saying he had a great time. he offered to give me a lift home and i agreed. when we got into the car he looked into my eyes and i could feel he wanted to touch me so badly so i touched his hand and suddenly we both kissed. it was an amazing deep and passionat ekiss but he pulled away and paologised and looked scared. i touched his pecs and said to him "dont worry its alright. i liked it. dont worry, i promise you ill never tell anyone"he kept apologising and dropped me off a couple of houses away from mine.i cried so much that night because i wanted him so badly but i knew i couldnt have him. and the next day i went up to him and said how sorry i was and he didnt look at me and i said to him i really liked him and he said we should forget about what hapened and i said i didnt want to, but he walked away.a few months later he started talking to me again just me and him and the spark was back and he began to flirt again. i told him im glad hes happy now and hugged him when everyone had gone. he didnt let go and when we kissed he didnt stop and he was feeling me more than usual. i loved his perfect eight pack and perfect arse when i touched it and he touched me too but he backed away and walked out of the classroom. i went to his house the next night ans when i turned up he asked me what i was doing and i said we needed to talk. he had to invite me in. i told him my feelings for him and asked if he felt the same way. he didnt say anything at first but i said his name and then he looked into my eyes right into my soul and said he did. that night i didnt go home, i called my mum and said i wass at a friend house and made sure she didnt know who they were. i kissed him more and he kissed me back and told me he loved me. he was relaxed and happy. this time when we kissed it didnt stop. i undid his shirt to feel his smooth chest and we layed on the sofa making out. then i was surprised and pleased when he put his hands under my shirt and jumper and stroked my body. i took off my jumper and he stroked my hair while we kissed deeper his tongue caressing my tongue. i was nervous but i bult up the courage and undid his belt annd he said no, but i explained to him i wasnt a virgin and kissed him again. i knew he wanted me and he took off my shirt and kissed my neck so i encouraged him to remove his shirt. i turned down the light and then i had sex with him.sorry it was so long but i wanted to get it off my chest as ive never told anyone before.my advice to you is you're only young and dont rush into sex or a relationship with an older man because that was the mistake i made. make sure you use protection because i didnt and i was lucky i didnt become pregnant. i still see him a lot and we are now in a relaxed and open relationship as i have now left the school. so if you really dod like him, wait a few more years so that you dont have to worry.
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reader, diva_101  +, writes (7 December 2008):
OMG! I just love your story, I almost broke down. I know exactly how you feel. My story is pretty long so if you want to hear it then just keep reading.
When I was in 9th grade (I'm in 10th grade now) I had this English teacher and omg I fell so deeply in love with him. I remember the very first time I saw him it was on the first day of school. My friend & I were walking to his class and as soon as I turned the corner and saw him standing by the door I stopped dead in my tracks. I just looked him up and down with my mouth open. (not literally lol). He was so beautiful to me. Every bit the definition of tall dark & handsome. He took my breathe away, I could not wait to go in his class. He greeted me and said "Hi, my name is Mr (his name) please take a seat anywhere" I politely introduced myself to him and was so taken in by his words. Through the whole school year I got to know him better and soon fell in love with him. Whenever he would walk by my desk he would touch my hair and rub his leg against my arm. I would constantly blush around him and I could not get him out of my head. He made my heart beat soooo fast and my stomache would start burning when I'd see him. I really wanted to tell him how much I cared for him so for Valentines Day I got him something. I got to school really early knowing that he'd be there early as well, and when I walked in his class with the gift, he was so shocked. I told him he was my favorite teacher and he said I was his favorite student. I guess I was blushing alot because after he opened his gift and thanked me (it was a dancing devil-heart bear that played the song "if you want my body") he asked "why are you blushing?" and he smiled. I said "you do that to me" and I looked away. There was no way in hell I could look him in the eyes, if I did I know I would've been so tempted to kiss him. He didn't say anything back but I got the feeling that he wanted to. After that day, he paid alot more attention to me. We were talking once & I told him that he would look really nice with facial hair. A week later he had a go-tee! I thought I was in a fairytale. Once I was at the grocery store with my mom and I ran into him. OMG my heart was seriously gonna pop out of my chest. He simply smiled and said hi to me and my mom was like "who's that?" and I just told her he was one of my teachers. Eventually my behavior started to change as I finally began to realize that we couldn't be together. For one he is 23 years older than me (which I don't have a problem with) and 2, he is married with kids.
Throughout the summer my feelings have really changed towards him. I don't have him as a teacher anymore and now he doesn't talk to me at all. When I see him around on campus he'll walk right by me and not even look at me. It breaks my heart, I don't know what I did wrong. He has left me so confused and mad at the same time. I got really depressed and emotional all the time. I thought I meant something to him. I thought we had a future together. My Mom noticed a change in my behavior and asked me what was wrong. I couldn't hold it in anymore, so I told her everything. She was really supportive and she didn't get mad. She told me that it was best for me to just forget about him and move on. She also told me that he was doing the right thing by not talking to me anymore, even though it hurt me alot. Becase weather I wanted to admit it or not, it was wrong. He can get into serious trouble and I don't want that to happen. I do give my teacher credit for not pursing a relationship with me, but at the same time I really wish we could've been together.
I've grown up a bit from this experiance & I'm sort of a more understanding person. I still get butterflies when I see him, but I try to act normal. I want him to be happy and if making him happy means I never speak to him again, then that's what I'm willing to do. He will forever be in my heart, and I thank him for all the memories.
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I know exactly how you feel, you are definitly not alone. The way I see it, love is not something you can describe, it's something you can feel. I wish you luck and I hope that your teacher never treats you the way mine is now treating me (not talking to me, avoiding me). Take care of yourself and once again I'm sooo glad that there are other girls in the same position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): awww I hope things have gotten better. That sounds exactly like my problem
except everybody loves my teacher and he is extremly older! I hope you don't or didn't act upon it cause my teacher found out I liked him and tried it with me, no matter how much I liked him I still said no. I really understand how you feel, its horrible but he's just a teacher how awful would it be if he lost his job? :( hope its worked out for you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): please dont take it offensivly but its sick ... u myt b in love but its never goin to happen. sorry to have to tell you but it dosent look like anyone else is goin to. you are only kidding yourself if u think anything is going to ahppen between tha 2 of yas. its illeagel, wrong and discusting. i think you need 2 cum 2 terms with it. All you need is a reality check. sorry if iv upset ya but it looked like i was going to be tha only 1 2 tel u tha truth
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reader, SOAD4EVER +, writes (6 March 2008):
 I don't think you love him coz thats a big word, i get this with my teacher too, where you get the feeling in your stomach that makes you feel sick and like jelly, this is a fancy, i know your really into him and he's really into you but he can't be he's dating like you said. He goes home every night back to his gorlfriend and sleeps in the same bed as her. if he really did like you he'd tell you it's happen before with me and it's not a good thing either. you can't physically go out with him he'd be classed as a pedo and purve, also he'd definatly get fired and he could go to jail. my teacher got the sack and charged with purving. I felt really bad for him but it's just not right. it's ok to be friends with him but try not to go any furthur and at the moment i'm trying to get over my teacher but i just tell myself that he's just a friend and it can't go any further becuase he's old enough to be my dad and thats that. if you want to go furthur than friends then just tell him alone that you have strong feelings for him, but you can't go out with him just let him know. even though this could make it a bit un-easy for him to manage with let alone your self. hope this has helped if not i'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): awww this almost made me cry. seriously. im in love with my teacher too. actually hes my friend's math teacher but i go to this after school thing on thursdays and hes there and i went today and my god. hes dorky looking but oh so cute. and hes tall and goofy but has the most gorgeous eyes. i dont know how old he is i have to ask my friend lol. but yeah i feel the same why. today was the first day i talked to him cuz of the after school math thing and i am totally in love with him. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): i feel that i a fancy my teachers.i feel that they flirt with me and that they understand me.i realise that i am saying 'teachers' her, but this is because i am attracted to at least 3 of my teachers.they all have different qualities that i find attractive.i do not know if this is just my hormones but i feel that they flirt with me back.i will admit i do think very highly of myself.i do feel men are drawn to me.i don't know what to do.am i being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Heyyyits been nearly two years since u posted this and i just came across this and well i hope that u have moved on, and u are much happier. Hope u have dreams that u wanna fulfill in the future and i hope u work towards ure goals in life.Its heartbreakin fallin in love at that age is all i can say...xxxpeace out
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): I feel the same way about my teacher. I'm 14 and he is 38!It's really tragic, I try to get over it but I just CAN'T!Good Lukx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): i feel the same about a teacher too. hes 38 and im 12 though... today he started singing to me and i dont know why. i know that liking him is wrong, considering the age gap, but, i haven't told anybody about these feelings and i know that they'll go away soon. i hope anything i have just said here helps... all i have to say for you now is "good luck and be careful".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Awww, that is so sweet. I feel the exact same about the teacher I like. He can make me feel on top of the world, even when I just chat to him. But take my advice, be realstic. Even though you seem to be in love, you have to remember: do you want him to jeprodise his career and personal life? It may ruin his entire life if something happened between you and him (because you are still a minor) and if you really care about him (which it sounds like you do), take extreme care with it. You want him to be happy, so don't try and get something to happen which may trun into a mess. This is what i've told myself, and although it hasn't stopped me from falling in love, it has stopped me from doing anything irrational.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): dont worry, but i think you are in love. i have never felt this way about anyone and i am 22! the way u describe how you feel about him is lovely, but it is still wrong, he is still your teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): omg that is the sweetest thing ever. but, i'm scared that you are going to be hurt from all of this... however, why don't u pm me n we'll tak about this more n dept. if u want my aim msg me n we'll talk on there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): I realy like this teacher in school he lives up the road from me i see him every day in school and in my boxying and walking in the steet and every time i look at him he just smiles and laughs two me my friend told him i love him and he knows i like him but i dont know if he likes me back but he is 6 years loder than me. all of my friends think he is discusting and thinks he is wierd but he is just my type i dont know why i like he but as soon as i seen him i couldent take my ayes offer him whot should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): dont get caught up in it its sick and he could lose his job if people thought he liked u
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reader, lisa21 +, writes (21 August 2007):
you obviously like him more than he likes you, he is a teacher and you are a school girl! you are creating a big love scene, i think its all in your head. aim for something a little more real like a 15 year old schoolboy.
im sorry but you need to grow up.
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reader, xoWhEnYourArOuNdxo +, writes (20 August 2007):
 OMG! I hate to say this but youre SO lucky. I know how you feel, i've like the principal at my school since september of 2004. All of my friends hate him and think he's a perve too. I dont care what they think either, im just happy to be around him. The reason I think you are lucky is because youre teacher gives you the time of day. My principal has to be so cautious of what he does around the other staff members at the school. (he doesnt want to lose his job.) Anyways, what I am trying to say is that you should tell him how you feel. I am sure he's gotten the vibe from you already but he's also been giving you some. If he only has a girlfriend and not a wife, maybe things will work out between you two. Best of luck:]
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): mmmmm girl i knw how you feel.....like the teachers in my school are pretty perverted n apparenlty according to most of the school various teachers have a crush on me but i try not to beleive it but the endless flirting and being treated differently to every1 one else makes it hard to beleive. in particular i have a teacher which is like 39 i think i dont fancy him but my god every time he is around me the poor bloke is a nervous reck n every time i speak to him he lights up n its like i mean the world to him! its so weird! its like seeing a young tean ...wen he speaks to me he blushes n his words dont come out properly n he always finds an excuse to talk to me lol its really funny xDbut like ye i dunno really its weird... like him n the other male teachers all talk about me aswell...But the teacher i like is a different story... he is 28 n im 17 we get along really well n theres this like weird intense feelin between us i catch him looking at me in class and recently we have gotten closer friends and other have already commented that he favours me and that the relationship is not normal for a teacher student but god i cant help it!He tries to impress me and always tries to show him as better than the other teachers...he's shown that he has common interests with me and is always talking to me like a friend about music and concerts etc he flirts with me and teases me playfully and always favours me in the class, he remembers tiny details of conversations which i have long forgotten and stumbles wen he talks to me.. in a crowd of ppl he always points me out and gazes into my eyes n wen im sad he tries to cheer me up he's one of those arrogant teachers which every1 hates but wen he's with me he shows himself in another light like he's no longer a teacher just a bloke who likes me... lol soz goin on abit thereI dunno if he fancies you its weird but the fact that he has a girlfriend changes things... he may just feel abit fatherly towards you! just wait until your 18 its always the best thing to do and watch out!i knw every1 here is sayin take a break but that is wat i did n i found it only made it worse xD i love him so much!!!!!! listen to your heart...=D from the signs youv showed me it seems like he has some affection for you but like every1 else is sayin you are only 15 and he is like 38..think wisely!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): I was exactly like you, and I must advise that you take a step back, because you're messing up your mind and jeopordising your life. You have to take a break or holiday, live away from him. Because, as you will come to realise like I did, that any sort of relationship with a teacher is utterly wrong. First and foremost it is illegal. And why? Because it his duty to do his job i.e teach you impartially, and this rightly does not allow extra curricular relations. Most importantly, you are a minor who can be easily influenced by an older, fuorthcoming man.And if anyone found out that you were having a relationship (which is highly likely) he would be immediately sacked and prosecuted for paedophilia, never allowed to teach again. If you truly care about him, would you want this to happen to him?
It's wrong on so many levels, and I think that if what you have written about him is true, and is not an exaggeration, then he is behaving in a very wrong manner towards you.
You should for own sake, stay away, and contact a senior member of steaching staff or a family member about this.
I know you are truly blinded by this love at the moment, but try to consider the long wrong, and get out of it- take a break, go away. For your own sake.
Good look, and take care.
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): I know completely how you feel, but you're a tad overobsessed. Try writing some poetry and songs about him. That helps me with my crush on my teacher, who acts a lot like yours. I'm 18 tho, and he's only 25. I think yourt age difference is a little extreme. Be careful.
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reader, 8101415 +, writes (23 November 2006):
I think he may do, but he is quite a lot older. I understand how you feel though. I think i might be in love with a teacher as well. He's only 21, and I'm almost 16. He doesn't actually teach me, but i see and talk to him all the time. Just be careful. How stable are he and his girlfriend? I know it's not nice to here, but is he using you, because he's bored with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): the same thing is happening to me right now. i know ow u feel and it is really tragic!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): Of course he doesn't fancy you he has his girlfriend he lavishes that affection on, he is just being nice to the little 15 year old who he knows has a school girl crush on him. He deals with such crushes every school year. You are living in a fantasy world you created yourself. But don't worry you will grow out of it sooner or later.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 November 2006):
 Well, well here you are again. And once again you aren't getting the answer you want from anybody but you are getting the same answers aren't you? I feel very sorry for your teacher, you sure are a persistent child!?
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reader, xKrysx +, writes (13 November 2006):
 My friend is in the same situation. She attends a kickboxing class and her coach favours her. She has had 1-1 tuition with him at his request and her friends believe he likes her back. She really likes him, but does not believe he likes her back, even though her friends are sure he does. I'd say just play it along, but be careful, he's older than you, more experienced. If he's a teacher he's bound to be over 20, so maybe he's a little old for you. Just don't get carried away telling your friends...this could get him into trouble and even fired, so just watch what you're doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): Hi firstly i just want to say that i totally know how your feeling i am in the exact same situation. I too also fancy my teacher and im 15. i always try and get in his class for the most pointless things just so i can talk to him, i love it when i see him in the corridor and just because he smiles and i smile back i know that might sound stupid but i just get this really good feeling round him and i think i love him too. i just want him to be mine. he has a family and has commented on me before he once called me beautiful and lovely to look at and of course this gives me more hope that we could be togeather some day. i only have a couple of years left at school and im dying for him to try and make a move or anything to happen between us im just soo crazy about this man!! its gettin to the stage that in class im thinking about him and its even worse when im in his class i cant even look at him without blushing! and im always trying to get him to help me with my work jsut soo he can talk to me. he does flirt with me and i to flirt back. i love him soooo much he is the only one i want and sometimes with what he says and does i feel that he wants me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondoes he fancy me though?
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reader, loveshoe +, writes (8 April 2006):
I think that this happens frequently when you are at this age... you're beginning to feel like you're growing up at 15 and are looking to the future.When I was younger than you, 13, I developed a fascination/obsession with an older man, he was 24 or 25 I believe. He took my virginity and I've regretted it ever since. It's called statutory rape, and the laws are there for a reason. As charming as this man seems, chances are that he is a sexual predator who will take advantage of you if you aren't careful. They are master manipulators and will tell you they love you, want to marry you, anything that you want to hear. I know that this may sound unreasonable or out of the question because your feelings for him are so real, but please give it some time to think over. I wish that I had.If however, you believe that your feelings are true about this person, please wait it out until you're at least 18.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (8 April 2006):
 wow...its a little for a teacher to be so friendly. but its natural to feel an atrraction to a teacher there to help you, they spent time, they understand, there firtly. the fact that you 15 and way over twice you age its the fact your a school girl and he's your teacher. what you feel may be real but isnt something you should act on. in time you'l get over him
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