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Does my college crush like me or was he just being a gentleman?

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Question - (11 October 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 October 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid Aunties and Uncles,

I have got a crush on a guy and I would like to know if you think I am correct to think he is not just being friendly.

He is in all of my classes. If he sits next to me, we sit quite close together, almost touching. We also do the same extra-curricular activities so we are together quite a lot. I tease him a lot, and he teases me too, and has a very dry sense of humour (which to be honest I didn't get to begin with).

The other week, I met him coming out of university, on my way to meet friends for drinks and he walked with me part of the way. At the point of parting ways, I thought it would only be polite to ask if he wanted to come too (as they are at the same university, just on a different course). To my surprise, he agreed and the friends I met asked me each, separately, if he and I were dating, even though I had explained he was a friend from my new class.

Anyway, last night. We went out for a drink after we finished our extra-curricular activity, with others from our group. I was tired and hungry, and I was planning on getting dinner on the way home (which I had mentioned to him earlier). I made my excuses to leave, and he followed suit (which isn't unusual as we travel home together sometimes). I had never made it a specific or inferred invite for him to join me for dinner. As we were walking down the main street he turns to me and asks "Where do you want to go for dinner then?” I was surprised, but secretly very pleased. He seems to be quite a private person but he was talking really freely. We talked quite in-depth about our families, hobbies- finding quite a lot in common. The most interesting question came when we got on to dating. I told an anecdote about an awful date I had had and he asked,” How long ago was that then?" which I thought was interesting… I also made a comment about how nosey some family members are about my singledom and he proceeded to say that he has a similar issue. He took forever to eat his food, to the point where it was on purpose, so we had to talk for longer.

We continued to chat and had an interesting debate about chivalry and he made a comment about how at his last university they always walked girls home (which I was very impressed by). Then we were standing on the platform waiting for the train, I was making a comment about how I seem to be bumping into a lot of people I was at school with, and made a joke that I won't be able to hide all the skeletons in my closet. He very seriously looks me in the eyes and says "You don't strike me as the type to have indiscretions" and then dashed off, as he had gotten on the wrong platform.

Now I know I may be reading too much into this, and he could just be being really nice. But the dinner last night seemed to tip the scales, for me anyway, into "he likes me" territory...or he is a gentleman.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 October 2012):

Honeypie agony aunt

Yea, I think he likes you too.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (11 October 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntI would like to weigh in on the "Likes You" side.

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