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writes:Hi, I have a male friend whom iv known for years.Little did i know that he liked me for years. I never looked at him that way til we had a drunken kiss around christmas time and we have been talking every day since. some sexy talk but in a light hearted/jokey way.We get on so well as he is a good friend as well as attraction and/or feelings - i could nearly say he is becoming like a best friend as we talk so muchMy question is how can i tell if he just wants to sleep with me .... or get to know me with that included and see where it leads?As some of the texts make me think he just wants to sleep with me....or could it be hes just a red blooded male.i wouldn't mind even having fun with him but the thing is now im getting feelings for him. so if i sleep with him and thats all he was after i will be devastated.I've been used by fellas before, so im cautious.he has suggested meeting up a few times and i fobbed him off by saying im not going to be his bit on the side and he replies that he dosnt want me to be that.Please help as i feel like just ignoring him to save myself from potential hurt. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): Suggest to him that you meet up somewhere that is not one of your two houses the first few times. If he is not only after sex he will be happy to do that. Remember though that even if he tries to go further too quickly, it doesn't necessarily mean he is only looking for sex. It's how he acts after you have set your boundaries that will show you that.
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reader, XoLove07  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 I've been hurt a couple of times, too. So I know exactly what you're going through. If you care about this guy, then you should definitely meet up with him. I don't mean, meet up with him and have sex. I mean , pick a place where you're going to be alone with him (maybe your place or his) and test him. He will probably want to kiss you again, which is fine. Here's my advice to you : once he kisses you, he will most likely want more from you. This is where you have to take control and refuse. Tell him you care about him and you don't want this to be a one time thing. If he replies in a negative way; trying to talk you into doing something or if he seems annoyed by this, leave or tell him to leave. If he respects you and your decision , then you'll know that he's the right guy for you and that he wants more than just sex. Hope this helps ! Let me know what you think :)
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