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writes:Hi, girl's. My question is after women break's up with a good guy, she's been seeing for a little while, because her ex, the bad boy want's her back, the one who treated her bad, he cheated on her , hit her, just a bad guy all around. They alway's say they will change, but it only last for a little while. So she's back with the bad boy, so do they ever regret leaving the the good guy,do they even ever think about the good guy, can it be they think they don't deserve a good guy, it seem's they don't want to be happy.The good guy think's about the woman an wonders, what he did wrong, he tried to make her happy, to feel wanted, to see her smile, but the whole time she thinking about the bad boy, the one who made her feel ugly, fat, no one will ever want you, she can't even look into a mirror, but the good guy had her look into the mirror, an see the beauty he see's. So young lady's does the woman, ever decide, the good guy, maybe he's still, waiting for her,but don't know how to talk to him, after they broken his heart, for the good guy was in love, when he look into her eye's an smiled.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2013):
 She sounds like a woman in an abusive relationship. I think it's really difficult for someone who has never been in that situation to understand how a woman could accept that sort of behavior from the man who is supposed to love her and take care of her. I think her self-esteem is in the toilet and she thinks she deserves the treatment he metes out. Why, I have no idea, I expect it goes back to her upbringing and if he's been psychologically brutalizing her long enough that he's inured her to his awful treatment of her.
It's really easy for us to say, 'snap out of it woman, he's an a**h**e! What the hell are you thinking? Get over him!' when we have no idea what is going on in her head. Maybe she associates pain with being loved. Maybe her father was a brute or she was sexually abused as a child, or her mother told her every single day that she was fat, worthless and nothing good would ever happen in her life.
http://www.thehotline.org/get-educated/how-can-i-help-a-friend-or-family-member-who-is-being-abused/
Rather than be angry with her, why not think of her as a victim? Maybe that will adjust your expectations and help you cope with what appears to be a rejection of you.
Hope she is able to free herself from the emotionally abusive man she is involved with.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Cerberus is right. It is not about winning or losing or nice guys finish last.
she is in love with him, right or wrong good or bad and she is not ready to walk away from him.
next time you find a lady to date, make sure she is fully over her ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2013): The simple answer is no.
OP this is nothing to do with good guy vs bad guy, this was just a rebound.
She doesn't think of you in that way because all the while she was with you she was pining for her ex. It was just a rebound, it's nothing to do with what you have to offer, nothing to do with you being better or worse, you just never stood a chance because she was still all about her ex.
Try not to take it personally, you could have been anyone you were there to ease her pain and that's what she used you for.
It sucks, it hurts but it's not a reflection your suitability as a partner, just don't ever get with women who are not over their ex. And for god's sake man do not ever get with a woman whose ex was like that. They're damaged, they're not relationship material and they're a lost cause.
In a sense it's your own fault for trying to play the hero. Find a woman who is single, happy, settled, independent and not still hung up on her ex.
Let this one go, she was never going to be good for you anyway, don't let your ego think you failed, you never had a chance anywa and frankly you had a lucky escape, she's his problem now.
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