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writes:I was wondering if girls think about the size of their ex's penis. My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them. For me and guys I asked, we don't remember specifics like tightness, wetness, and we even forget boob size (if not seen frequently)I wanted to know if a girl is disappointed with the size of their current, do they think about the preferred size during sex?Since I will never talk to you again and you can stay anonynous please answer honestly
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reader, BiggMikey +, writes (12 October 2016):
Personally, I've had quite a few comments from woman that indicate they do remember and compare. One girl told me I was more than twice the man her boyfriend was. Or, "you're SO much bigger than anything I've ever seen. Yeah, they remember, but I don't think they always obsess over it or even care. It's like one of those "little" details, unless she's a size queen of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): A similar thing has happened to me. The night me and a girl made our relationship official, we ended up having sex for about the 4th time. Afterwards she started talking about a one night stand she had, apparently it was very fat and very short, she didn't necessarily judge me but it wasn't something I wanted to know about, so needless to say it was a very short relationship... Lasting 3 official hours! Get rid of her!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Honest answer here. Yes, at times, if the topic comes up such as now or when debating penises, I do think about my exes penises. I can't remember all penises I've ever seen, but some stick to my mind, especially if I've mentioned them to girl friends before. I remember the ones who stood out, such as being extremely curved to one side, extremely long, or very small, or very thick etc.
I've never been disappointed in a boyfriends penis or size of penis. I've not directly compared the penises either, not in a ranking way anyway, but there is bound to be some anticipation on how this "new one" feels compared to what I've felt before. I notice the difference quite well if the new penis is particular in some way, especially compared to the previous extreme cases I mentioned above.
Women for most part do not favour large penises. We love the ones who fit us, which tends to be the average ones (yes, true!!!) and the lovers who knows how to make us feel sexy in bed.
I do not think about a preferred size during sex. I work with what I've got, and every penis, as with every man, is unique and can offer a unique experience.
I get excited about each new penis I get to see, it's like opening a gift and see whats inside, see what the new play-toy looks like. Maybe Im childish like that. I would be disappointed if he was extremely small though, like the size of my thumb. I've been in a relationship with a man who had one of those, and while it worked at the time I have gotten my tasted in the bedroom defined since then and know now that a thumb of a penis wouldn't do for my favourite positions. I also know that a man hung like a horse wouldn't be a good match either as it'd just hurt too much. Been with a real thick one as well, so I KNOW that big thick ones do not work for me. Long ones are troublesome as well, but can be worked with. But if it was for a man I love... well, then that changes things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): Do I think about them, no, not at all. Do I remember some, yes, but that's only because you asked lol.
That was just rude what your girlfriend said. Seriously. I would be very hurt if my boyfriend made a comment like that referring to someone in his past...that's just wrong, wrong wrong.
I wouldn't let the comment bother you too much as far as who you are and what you have. Be proud of what you have and respect how you use it:-)
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Yes I remember all of my previous sex partners penis size and their performance. However this is because I have a good memory when it comes to sex and its important to me.
One of my ex partners (2 dates and had sex once) had a penis the size of my little finger, erect! He was a nice guy but I coukdenf go any further because I was very dissatisfied with the sex. He biased that he was great at oral sex which he wasn't and sucked my nipples raw :-/
One of my ex boyfriends had a very thick penis so it was very painful to have sex l.
My current partner has an average sized penis and I am quite satisfied l. It could be better but I'm willing to sacrifice that for a good relationship l!
Penis size does matter. Performance does matter. And the connection matters the most.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Remember this sage adage:
It's not the size of the wand, but the magic of the performer, that puts the rabbit in the hat!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): Here's some advice from a guy with a dead on average sized penis...
Get a new girlfriend.
Tell her, the current one, that you don't give a crap about the other guys penises, how big, how often they had sex, or how it felt. What you do give a crap about is how you are treated and talking about the "other guy's penis" is not treating anyone decently.
I never compared my sexual partners...never. Most decent people don't. Decent people who get drunk or stoned (was she), may do it because of the drugs or alcohol...but if she wasn't under the influence, deeply, then there is no good excused except friggin assholeness.
You have a dick...for a girlfriend. Unless you are turned on by the talk, get someone who is less of a dick.
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reader, Freyja +, writes (9 December 2011):
I don't give two hoots about my partner's penis size, and your girlfriend shouldn't either if regardless you both enjoy a happy, fulfilling sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2011): "My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them."There are, of course, two possible anwers to your question. Either women do remember, or they don't. But, either way, why would your girlfriend bring it up?It seems to me there are very few possible reasons she would say this: 1) she remembers and she liked the size of her ex better; 2) she wanted to make you feel insecure so she could have more power in the relationship; 3) she just doesn't care if she hurts your feelings; or 4) she's extremely naive about men's feelings with respect to their unit. (these are not necessarily mutually exclusive reasons, of course, and whether or not she remembers wouldn't necesarily affect any of the above other than #1)Unless you have a good reason to think it's completely #4, my advice is to just dump her and move on. Plenty of women either prefer average or don't really care. If she's a 1 in 10 woman who finds that a man's size is really important for her, she needs to find that 1 in 10 or 1 in 20 men who are significantly above average. If truely huge is important to her, she needs to find the 1 guy in 1,000 who is almost freakishly huge. There's no point in either of you being unhappy given that you could both find someone you're compatible with. (or, perhaps, she needs to find someone who likes being controlled)(I know of controller/controlled relationships that actually do work. Whatever blows your hair back)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 December 2011):
 Not really, if I think back (fondly) it's cause an ex was good at using his "joystick" not because of the size. But really I don't spend time reminiscing about ex's or they "joysticks".
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2011): I never think of my exes penis size or anything else about it or him for that matter. In all honesty I can't even remember anything about it and I don;t want to. Women don't care, it's about the person we are with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): If I'm in love with the man, I'm in love with the cock.
If I'm looking for a roll in the hay, I prefer to go small to medium.
Big often means no room for the inner muscles to grab onto.
Big often means, this is all I use, my ego is as big as my dick.
Have also observed men with smaller cocks, have fantastic imaginations and know a whole lot about foreplay and how to use their whole minds and bodies to get a girl lost in the moment.
Oral sex is also so much easier and lasts a longer time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 December 2011):
EVERY GIRL who has ever seen (and/or experienced) my "Mr Happy" spends the rest of her life fantasizing about it (him).... and ME, too, by the way......
Why do you ask????
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): OP girls care about cock size the same way we care about breast size. It's not something we really give a crap about is it? As long as they let us play with them then we pretty much love all boobs.You may like big boobs but there is no chance in hell you'd be disappointed with a girl with small ones. Once you take them out of the bra, boobs are boobs are they not? Well the same applies to girls when it comes to willy's. The only difference is the feeling a penis gives varies from guy to guy but most girls I know have had better sex with guys with average penis' rather than the slow, careful or painful experience of a guy with a big one. Think of a girl you used to date that had awesome boobs, maybe even better than your current girls boobs, does that matter even in the slightest? No, and before this question arose in your mind did you ever compare those boobs to your girlfriends during sex? No of course not.If she enjoys sex with you, if you're able to pleasure her then this doesn't matter at all. Not only that but unless she's a callous bitch then the only reason she felt okay to say that to you is probably because you're more than adequate for her and she doesn't see your size as an issue at all.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (8 December 2011):
I'm not a girl, but this topic is very common in the net. And I have my own opinion about it.From the answers of girls about this, I reckon most girls remember the size of their exes. Or at least would be able to tell the difference with the previous guy.At the same time there is a good chance the size difference won't make the difference. As person12345 wrote, the size is almost not connected to orgasm. The size will be more like a visual thing.In the end, the size only matter if your girlfriend think it does. If she is really ok with your size, she won't matter you being smaller than her ex. In fact, the most common complain for girls is when the penis is too big.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): You are different from her sexually. You probably invest it with more emotion than she does. You don't want to just grade your lovers on body parts and performance like some kind of juicy "sex in the city" conversation, do you? Well that's what she does. I am dating a girl like this right now. I like a lot of other things about her but I am completely turned off by her view of sex. I don't think I could ever be with her for long term even though she is completely in love with me.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 December 2011):
 First off, most women do not care about penis size. The vast majority of women (around 75%) never have an orgasm from intercourse. This does not have to do with penis size, but rather that we have very few nerve endings in our vaginas. When we can have orgasms from intercourse, it's because our clitoris is stimulated in some way either from actively rubbing it or from indirect friction.Personally, I do remember the penis size of my first, but only because he was so big that it really hurt to have sex.I think it was cruel of your girlfriend to rub your nose in this. What context did it come up in?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): Never, they are ex's for a reason I can't imagine anything worse then remembering their intimate details!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I have had more partners than you can imagine and NO I do not think of my exes when I am with my current partner.I can't even remember what sex with my first husband was like and i have two children with him....
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