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female
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writes:I have this casual friend whom I met after 3 years. He is studying in a good law school. It was a surprise meet and we talked for 3-4 days. Then I felt that I like spending time with him and would like to give this relationship a shot. I told him that I have feelings for him. We met on his birthday the very next day. He was trying to get cozy and I refused because it was a huge turn off showing that he was merely into physical stuff. He got angry and he did not call me for next three days.Then, he called me saying that he wanted to meet and talk to me. We decided to meet at the movies. But he was not interested in the movie. Rather he was interested in getting cozy, kissing and touching me everywhere. I paid for the movie tickets and he was just interested in sex talks. We kissed on our very second meeting and he was talking of getting hot and sex. It really hurt my feelings as I thought he was genuinely interested in me. But he wasn't even interested in knowing me, talking to me or having some serious conversations. My feelings were shattered and the experience is haunting me since past three days. I wish to move on but the feelings of regret and guilt are hurting me again and again. I always wanted a serious relationship rather than getting into casual flings. But this experience has totally challenged my hope for the good. Please help.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (26 December 2011):
 I'm not sure why you feel regret and guilt. Is it that you regret going out with him in the first place (or allowing a second date)? Do you feel guilty because... you allowed yourself to get in that situation?It seems to me that this situation should make you feel good about yourself. You stood up for your guns and didn't succumb to his perpetual propositions and advances. You knew you were better than that, deserved more, so you kicked him to the curb. Good for you, sister!! There are plenty of scum bags out there, and now you know you can see them for who they really are, and what they really want. You won't be fooled by smooth lines or roving hands during a cuddle session. I say this experience has made you stronger, wiser and more self-aware.There are so many nice guys out there. Don't let one scum bag ruin it for all the sweethearts who will be next to court you. Stay in the game, just always be aware and keep using that gut instinct to discern the jerks from the gems. You'll find your fella, he's out there!! Keep looking for the serious relationship you want. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2011): Hi friend... I got to u n i can understand ur situation,, evn i belong to the same nationality as u do., i evn knw d society ovr here... Wen u thnk dat d so called friend of urs, is looking for something which our society does not accepts and is merely because of a hormonal urge , just think of your family who has been every thing to you till now..... Wat i believe is if a relation which is build in a very short span of time, it even takes short time to come to an end... So wat i advise you is think about the future consequences of your actions.... Think twice before you proceed...
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