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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone it would be really appreciated for help on this because I'm completely confused. My boyfriend of 2 years and I have been off and on since October but on Christmas eve he broke up with me via text not giving me a reason then ignored me for 2 weeks well about a week and a half ago he started texting me again and we made plans to hang out everything was fine and he was being normal to me so we hung out a few more times. This weekend we were both at college because of an annual drinking weekend and he invited me to his friends house when I got there he was so rude to me. He kept on pushing me away and flirting with other girls right in front of my face. After I was there for about an hour he asked me if I wanted to go upstairs with him, we were upstairs hooking up and then he told me he'd like me better if I lost more weight. Obviously I got emotional because I was drunk(he's always made me feel bad about my weight) so I started to cry and left. He hasn't talked to me since then. I'm confused because I really do love him more than anything. He's a compulsive liar,cheater and he made me get an abortion all which led to us breaking up. I don't know why I still love him I try to think about all the bad things he's done to me but at the end of the day he's still the only one I want. Sometimes I can't sleep or I wake up because I'm thinking about him. I don't know what to do because I would do anything to get him back but the more I feel like I'm talking to him and trying to make things right he reacts like I'm being clingy and pushes me away but at the same time I'm nervous if I don't talk to him anymore he'll forget about me because I know he's already talking to other girls. So can anyone please give me some advice on getting him back or at least a way that I can ask him what's going on with us. I know this all seems like i should just move on and get over him but I really do feel like I'm suppose to be with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Hello,
Firstly, I'm sorry for what you've endeared.
Secondly, you need to take time out to figure out why you've allowed someone to mistreat you this way. Lies, cheats, makes comments on your weight. Does anything he possibly can to make you feel badly about who you are. This is emotional abuse. You need to have zero contact with him, and move forward in a positive direction. Eventually you'll find someone worthy of your love. He's out there. Don't settle for anyone who can't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Life is too short to spend it with someone who has these issues.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): i think the problem your having at the moment is perhaps you think that he is your one and only love but we have to face facts here he has ground you down in to the mud as far as he possibly can i went out with a guy for a week before he dumped me and didn't even give me a reason for it but i am still in love with him for reasons i can not fathom but i have been looking else where and trying to spread my wings i think you need to try the same go out with your friends for drinks and generally have a good time just ignore this guy he doesn't deserve you but if you do find someone else he might get a bit jealous and come back but then you will have a decision of whether you still like him or who ever you might be with at the time so its completely down to your decision darlin just try having a good time you never know you might have more fun meeting new people and bouncing off them :) xx
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2011):
I think you have a problem. I don't know whether it's insecurity, a lack of confidence, or that you're desperate for love. But no one should be allowing themselves to be treated this way.
This guy is a compulsive liar, a cheat, and was all for you having an abortion. The last thing on earth that this man feels for you is love. He doesn't care about you at all.
No one who is confident and happy with their life would allow themselves to be treated this way. My advice is that you get some professional help to sort out the problems that are making you pick a man who genuinely thinks nothing of you.
You are not meant to be with a man who treats you like something he flushed down a toilet.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Sorry, but I'm not about to give you advice on how to get him back.
He doesn't deserve you, period. And YOU need to set a MUCH higher value on yourself than to be pining after a lout who shows SUCH honesty and integrity in his dealings with you (not!!)
Please, forget all this nonsense about "loving him more than anything." There's nothing to love about him! You should have more self-respect and esteem than that.
Makes my blood pressure go up just to read about it, LOL!!
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