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36-40,
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writes:This guy and I have been dating for like a few months so far. He has proven to be a person I don't feel I can trust. He seems like the player/liar type and when he doesn't get his way he tends to try to guilt trip you or make you feel like your the inferior one. For instance, I think this happened a month back. He kept on calling and texting me multiple times a day. It really drove me insane, plus I didn't answer his calls a lot due to my hectic work schedule. When I did pick up, I would tell him to please stop calling me so much because I work and have my own life too. He started getting really defensive, saying that I'm cheating on him (when I wasn't - I just need some space we aren't even b/f or g/f yet!), and he said oh well fine... "I have so many girls running behind me but I chose to be with you!" That really threw me off the wrong way. I told him in a polite way something to the effect of, go chase those other girls, cuz I'm not chasing after him. I for one don't stand when people play mind games with me or start unintentional drama. So I decided to cut this guy off and break things off with him. He didn't get the picture when I told him this isn't working!!!Instead he would harass and call me from different numbers or blocked ID! I told him to cut it out and stop calling me from his random friends numbers. He did stop but he still calls me from blocked ID! He apologized for what he said to me and he was like he didn't mean it, he was just angry at the time. After a few weeks of ignoring him, I was like whatever fine.. this guy is so persistent and he seems to be sorry let me give him a second chance. That was a mistake!Right when I took him back, he has to go fuck it up and say something douchey about women in general. How they are inferior to men and how he as a man needs sex. I'm like so is that what your only looking for with me? He's like no, if he wanted pussy he could go get with so many women but he choose me to be with. He's so vulgar and disgusting. I told him please leave me alone, I don't want to be with you anymore. But he continues to text and call me blocked!!!! It drives me insane. I don't answer his blocked calls but he continues to call.After a few weeks, he end up talking back. But I don't have any intention of him being my bf. But somehow he thinks I'm his "g/f." So he's staying out of state for a few weeks. He sends me a text saying how he met this really sexy girl, they kicked it off, talked for a while, she gave him her number, and how she lives alone. He texts me all this information and he tells me damn he doesn't know what to do and how he doesn't want to come back to the state where we live, he needs to free his mind out there (outta state where hes on vacation). I'm like what the fuck? Is this guy serious? When I just start talking to this guy back, he just has to be a douche and say something stupid like this. I didn't even respond to his texts because I don't care what he does. I just want to get rid of him for good! But he won't stop calling and texting me!!!! HELP what do I do!?!? I don't want to change my number either!!!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 June 2011):
 Since you are in the US, call your local police department (not 911) and get advice on how to file anti-stalking charges. Keep logs of all the times he calls and if he leaves voice mails, do NOT delete them.
File a report!
Have you considered changing your number?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 June 2011):
 Yeah, break it off once and for all. Do not take him back. If it's not working, it's not working. Tell him to stop communicating with you as well. Then ignore him. His calls, his texts, everything. Don't play around and take him back. You already know that he is toxic and this is not something you want in your life.
He is insecure. That's why all the talk about other women and sexism. You can't change or reprimand him. All you can do is leave.
If he continues to call you after you've been ignoring him, call the police and/or the attorney general. Stalking is a serious offense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): You can always go to your phone provider and have them block his number for you so that when he calls it is automatically ended and you don't hear from him. If he keeps on bugging you then you could take it to the police for harassment and all. That is all i can think of currently i hope everything works out well for you and gets better.
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