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Could this long distance guy be interested in me?

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Question - (29 August 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 September 2014)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'd like some insight into a crush I am visiting in a few months. We live in different countries and only met at a party last year. We just flirted and kissed a bit -- I didn't want to go any further because I was casually dating someone else at the time -- and I haven't seen him since because I flew home the next morning.

I assumed he'd forgotten about me over the past year, but I would still think about him from time to time. We hadn't talked at all since the party, aside from a few messages over facebook. When I recently planned a trip to a country near his, he asked if I would stop in his city to visit. He even said I could stay with him if I wanted.

I want to visit him over a weekend and will get a hotel room instead of staying at his apartment. What should I think of this whole thing? Since he offered me a place to stay, could that mean he is interested? I just don't know how to approach the situation when we see each other again.

Thanks for your help!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 September 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony aunti offer casual friends a place to stay.... it may just mean he likes company and is trying to save you some money.

you met a year or so ago

and have had minimal contact since then.

I like the idea of a hotel for you... no need to create a situation you don't want to or need to deal with.

BEFORE you get all excited and hopeful realize this is an exciting thing... and the POTENTIAL for it to work out permanently is SLIM to NONE.

Go, visit, think of him as a casual friend to have some casual fun with... NOTHING MORE...

get to know him better.... and then see how it goes...

no sense in getting involved with someone if neither of you is willing or able to move to be with the other in the next 2 yrs or so.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014):

I'm hoping that's the case but I thought he could also just see me as a good acquaintance, and made the offer as a friendly gesture... Hopefully a guy will weigh in too so I can get a second opinion! Thanks so much for your input, it stopped me from over analyzing everything :)

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A female reader, Intrigued3000 Canada +, writes (30 August 2014):

Intrigued3000 agony auntYes, Of course he's interested:) He would not invite you to stay at his place if he wasn't. You'd probably get an invitation to meet for dinner or drinks if he wasn't all that interested.

I think it's wise that you booked a hotel nearby. If things get more promising when you meet him, then you can probably stay at his place and cancel the remainder of your reservation.

Just relax and have fun. He definitely likes you and wants to get to know you better:)

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