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51-59,
*indy1
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. During this time I have noticed that when we have intercourse he doesn't always reach orgasm. At first I put it down to us needing more time to get to know each other's bodies but now it is becoming a real issue for me as it makes me feel I do not satisfy him in bed and am not attractive enough. I plucked up the courage to ask him about it and he says sometimes I am too wet for him to feel friction. He said this isn't a problem for him and that the sex is still nice and that I have nothing to worry about but this has left me feeling very inadequate and self-conscious. I want him to think the sex is great not just nice!His comments have put me off wanting sex at all and I am wondering whether we are just sexually incompatible. I don't want to end things as we are 110% compatible in every other aspect of our relationship but I can't help feeling upset that our sex life is not fantastic!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 January 2016):
 Maybe he's not blaming you, but just merely stating a fact that he needs friction to achieve orgasm. A lot of guys go through life masturbating much more than getting real sex. It could be that he's been single for a long time and has to get used to a wet vagina. For a long time, friction is what causes orgasm. It's a sad fact that many people are more compatible with their hands (that includes women too) than real life partners. And that masturbation feels better than real sex, just without the human warmth and closeness. It would be too quick to conclude that sex is not fantastic. Hopefully now that he is not single anymore both of you can adjust. You probably won't be this wet forever. Just because sex for the first few months isn't perfect doesn't mean it's doomed.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 January 2016):
 A female is meant to get wet as am sure you are well aware. I think he is using this as an excuse. You need to talk to him about this.
It sounds like he is having some erectile problems, and that is perfectly normal if he is a middle aged man, he might need to go and see a doctor if this persists, however it is totally out of order for him to blame you for this, as it is not because you are two wet, so please don't blame yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2016): If he is your age, maybe he's not aware that his body has changed. I hope he's not trying to hide it and "put a blame" on your being too wet.
AT some point in life men too start having problems with quality and quantity of orgasms.
You both should inform yourselves and maybe a solution can be as simple as taking some supplements.
In my husband's case, it was the lack of semen liquid (I don't know if that's the term).
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