Co-worker does not speak after sex

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ok so, this guy started working with my company about six months ago. Very cute I'm very attracted to him and he is also younger then I am, I'm 38 and he is 26. We would see each other but not talk, Im shy I'm not sure if he is the same way. One night after work a few of my coworkers and I went out. He happened to be there, I had a few drinks so it was easier to talk to start talking to him. Since then we just talk, he would come by my work area and say hi. I've alway said that I would never date anyone from work or have any type of relationship. But this guy was making me see past all that I started to get to like him more. One friday night he ask me to come and celebrate him birthday. So I said ok why not let's go out. I was a little nervous just cause I'm shy and so attracted to him, and he been on my mind. That night we sent out and had an amazing time, we kissed each all and danced ect... One thing let to another, and we had sex, it was amazing we enjoyed each other, well at least I thought we did. Monday came I called him at his ext. in the morning to say hi and ask if he had a good time he said yes. He asked me the same thing I said yes. After that just small talk we both got off the phone to get back to work. The next day late in the afternoon he came to visit me at my desk to say hi. Then few days go by I didn't see him so I emailed him to say hello, he didn't reply. So I let it go figuring he must be busy. Then one afternoon during my lunch break I saw him outside walking by, he just looked at me smiled and just kept walking. I was wondering why he didnt stop to say hello or talk to me. Another few days go by and I don't hear from him or speak to him. One late afternoon I was walking to the elevator to leave to go home and he was standing there, so I said hello but kinda gave him the cold shoulder and just ran in the elevator to leave. It's been 3 weeks now and I have not heard from him nor do we speak or see each other. I'm very disappointed and feel it was uncool for him to act that way. I'm trying not to speculate him as being a player, or seeing this as him just wanting to have a one night stand, I don't really know him that well. He seemed to be extremely cool at the time of our encounter. Please help me im not sure what to do about this. It bothering me that he doesn't speak to me any more. I can't get this off my mind.

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