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Caught my daughter masterbating

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Question - (16 November 2008) 12 Answers - (Newest, 16 November 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I caught my daughter masturbating at her room with a dildo,and she was orgasming, she then noticed me and went to the bathroom crying. What should I tell her?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008):

i agre with emily

DO THE BRITSH THING

trust me the last thing a dauter wants to jear is about her mum and her opinion on how to do things like this she wont wannt intermet details shel wont it forgoten and never mentioned again

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A female reader, helpjayne United Kingdom +, writes (16 November 2008):

helpjayne agony aunttell her not to be embarassed about it and everyone does it. and then tell her you won't mention it again!

if you don't say anything she might be thinking that you think she's disgusting and stuff so don't say alot and then end the conversation.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (16 November 2008):

Do the British thing and simply agree to never mention it again.

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (16 November 2008):

DoubleM agony auntTell her nothing. She is normal. If anything at all, just smile and say, "No problem, darling. You can ask me anything." Then shut up and say no more.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (16 November 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntYou're between 22 and 25??

How old is your daughter??

I'm not sure how she got her hands on a dildo, but keep it away from her. Don't let her go in your stuff.

I wouldn't mention it to her again, don't make her feel ashamed or embarrassed, masturbation is something that nearly everyone does. It's not a big deal, just an awkward situation.

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A female reader, BlueCherry Mexico +, writes (16 November 2008):

BlueCherry agony auntShe was being a responsible kid. If I ever have kids I would much rather find her with a dildo and not a guy on top of her. I say o assure her that its perfectly normal and that she did not do anything wrong.

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A female reader, Oceania Mexico +, writes (16 November 2008):

Oceania agony auntIgnore it.

She will feel very bad if you try to talk to her, things will get awkward or something. Just forget it, and next time you talk to her do it normally, dont make her feel embarrassed, masturbating its not wrong.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008):

tell her that its normal girls her age and older to want to masterbate, and that you do it too..... tell her that everybody does it but are too embarrased to tell anyone. Its a normal part of our lives, it brings us pleasure, when we can't experience the real thing..say that its a whole lot better way to orgasm by masterbating, than having sex with someone you don't even know, or even having it at all yet, because she is probably too young.

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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (16 November 2008):

Tell her that masterbating is normal and nothing to be ashamed of and that from now on you will knock. Also tell her its fine as long as she does it in her room. One question though how old is your daughter?

If she is very young you might want to be concerned with how she learned about it and where she got a dildo.

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A female reader, molly4 Australia +, writes (16 November 2008):

molly4 agony aunttell her its totally natural and that you are not surprised at all. act casual about it, and tell her how it is normal and that you will knock next time. :)

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (16 November 2008):

oldfool agony auntShow her your own dildo, tell her "This is mine, it's much better".

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008):

If you are 22 - 25, how old is your daughter!

Regardless, talk to her and try to remove the akwardness and stigma about it. I know she doesnt want to her this but perhaps let her know you masturbate occasionally and that its ok. I got nothing else for ya, hope it works out, it should be akward for a bit.

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