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writes:Can anybody tell me if there is any way possible to workout a relationship with someone with a drug problem? I've known this peron for over 30 years and always stayed in touch as good friends. He's had a drug problem as long as I could remember but never used around me. We went our seperate ways for about 10 years claims and during that time he was clean. Eventually we ended up moving in together and about 1 year after he ended up back on drugs and destroyed the trust we had not only w/me but everyone in his family. It's been 7 years since I had contact w/him and now he is claiming he has stopped. The drug of choice he used was crack cocaine.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 The odds are very low.
If he stayed clean for 2 years, the odds go up significantly.
If you already love him, stay with him without ultimatums.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Third time is not a charm. If he was truly rehabilitated he would have sought you out to apologize for the pain he caused you through his addiction. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you would just be back into a co-dependent relationship....move on this time for good......I would say differently if this were the first time you tried, but not after this many years....not a good candidate for love or relationship I am afraid....he may be beyond hope after so many years of prolonged drug use.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 December 2008):
 I wouldn't waste time finding out. After 30+ years of consistent drug use, if he quits it won't be for long. What he needs in order to quit is a LOT of rehabilitation and an attitude and life change. If he has sought out that in the last 7 years, it might be worth at least hearing him out.
Go to the source - talk to his family and see if they believe this change of life.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 I wouldnt count on a relationship with him. Drug addicts only love their drugs first and foremost. You've already experienced the lying. His family are not there for him. Any money you may have or earn will be used to fund his habit. The best thing he can do for himself is to check in to rehabilitation, if he's not prepared to take control I'm afraid you must keep your distance and get on with your life. good luck , hope this helps.
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