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My girl is very loose, but I like it that way, problem is I cant stay hard, help!

Q.   hello everyone, I have a unique problem I believe. Let me say first I love my girlfriend and want to spend the rest of my life with her. We have been going out for about 3 years now, and things are really serious, marriage is on the horizon. My...

A.   18 April 2010: My ex-wife had a loose pussy and I use to put my dick into her and I would put 2 fingers in with it. I am average in length but wider than normal in thickness. Her sisterr once came on to me wanting to give me a bj but I escaped the time. My wife ... (read in full...)

I want to marry my 50-year-old boyfriend, but Mum thinks I should find a boy my own age!

Q.   I'M 18 and love my 50-year-old boyfriend very much. We met five years ago at a family barbecue. He loves me and has asked me to marry him, so we've set a date this time next year. The problem is I don't always understand him and this has...

A.   5 April 2010: I think its great that you were lucky enough to find your special someone! Im in my 50s also and have dated a woman 23 with one boy--we are having problems now cause shes worried about our age difference. I am very laid back and down to earth some ... (read in full...)

I want my baby but my boyfriend wants me to abort. Help!

Q.   Okay so I'm 16 and 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is 17. Just hear me out okay (: Although my boyfriend of 19 months and I had talked about having kids, our baby was not planned. We weren't careful at all with protection and so inevitably, I fe...

A.   29 March 2010:  Hello. I feel this young woman is trying and planing for her future-thats something good. It might not happen like she imagines but at least she doesnt sound immature. Maybe the boyfriend isnt as strong in character as she thinks he is suggesting ... (read in full...)

I feel unloved, both by my hubby and by the guy I had an affair with

Q.   I am married and started seeing a married man. A little bit of history... I knew him back when I was 16 (he was 21) and we worked together. He never lead on like he liked me, of course I would catch him looking at me. I totally was crushing on ...

A.   26 March 2010: I know this woman who has had many lovers now and in the past. I am aware that she tells them *No Commitment*--it works for her. She is a divorced woman with two kids. Maybe this will make someone think over this love idea? Just putting my two-cents ... (read in full...)

Help!! Advice on husbands actions... Lies, porn and masturbation!!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for almost 16 years and I now have come to a place in our marriage that I am not sure what to do next. I just recently caught him AGAIN watching porn and masturbating. I was so sick to my stomach and absolutly ...

A.   26 March 2010: Right near my condo is a ladys house. This woman is quite attractive and smart. By day she works in a publishing office. And at night shes with her boyfriend-in fact they meet every other day. I am bringing this up to show the slow thinkers that ... (read in full...)

Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   26 March 2010:  Im not in the mood to judge you. Society has that problem plus many other problems. I hear you when you say bells ring when the two of you are together. This is the way people are suppose to feel if they feel loved. As far as any problems-with ... (read in full...)

I can't feel my boyfriends penis when he's inside of me...HELP

Q.   *OP's own title* I am in a relationship with an incredible man that I am highly considering for marriage. My past relationships were all based on the physical but quickly fizzled b/c they had nothing else to offer. My current boyfriend and I star...

A.   24 March 2010:  There is a pill called *Volume*--The herbs used are approved by the FDA. Volume pills are different than viagra. They make the penis healthier. The pills dont increase the thickness of the cock but they can increase the amount of semen a guy has. ... (read in full...)

Sensitive girl dating very sarcastic man.....will it work out or end in tears?

Q.   im 22 goin out wit my 26 yr old boyfrend 7 months for the first 3 months we had so much fun we used to always go out dancing in clubs go to pubs and go out drinking and go to cinemas. we said i love you after only 3 months which is very quick i kno...

A.   24 March 2010:  Miss I would kick him out of your house at least until he showed you a little respect. Sorry but I dont treat woman like this. Some guys never learn that just because they might have a good thing today--it does not mean it will be there forever. ... (read in full...)

Advice on oral sex techniques

Q.   Need some advice on better oral sex techniques. The problem is that I used to be able to get my girlfriend to cum fairly easily. She explained that it's hard for her to do it so the oral sessions would last up to 40mins. She used to ask me if my ...

A.   23 March 2010:  By far I dont know everything about Oral Sex. But I do know a few things that might help. Most women who like oral sex prefer the guy to lick the sides of her pussy. I like it if the woman shaves her pubic hair but Ive done it both ways. I prefer ... (read in full...)

It seems like its his friends or me..and I don't want to be stuck in this situation

Q.   I've been seeing a guy for about 8 months now. We ussually get along great. However, we have a small problem: his close childhood friends. His friends mean the world to him and him them, I totally appreciate and respect that. They have known each ...

A.   11 August 2009:  Dear Ms.-When your partner and boyfriend have his Party night; wouldnt be a good idea for you to get together with your girlfriends? There are many people who get into arguments just because they might have a little to much alcohol or leafy herb. ... (read in full...)

I'm participating in his affair but I don't want to be..

Q.   I just got out of a abusive relationship and all my past relationships were either abusive physically or emotionally or both, my question is how do I stop currently having sex with my boss who is married. I used to always say no but I finally gave ...

A.   10 August 2009:  Dear Ms-Let me get this straight: You are having an affair with a married man; your Boss? If you tell him to stop; he will fire you from your job? If this is true; there are a few things you could do. 1) After he has sex with you; go to the nearest ... (read in full...)

What's going on in my ex's head??

Q.   Myself and my ex went for a meal last week. I thought it would be a good idea to see if i had still any feelings for her. As she told a friend of mine she was depressed i thought it would be a good idea to bring her to a park she loved, however ...

A.   10 August 2009: Dear Sir--When you reminded her about your breakup--was she talking or was it you who was doing the talking? It matters because when she finally asked you if you could be friends / that might have been her way to tell you that she was sorry for her ... (read in full...)

Am I miss out on things?

Q.   Hey all. Im 17, and so is my boyfriend. We have been together two years. Dont get me wrong, our relationship is fine; we have ups and downs but who doesnt. I love him, and imagine one day starting a life with him and all sorts. The only thing is...

A.   10 August 2009:  Dear Curious-You are not the first person to wonder what it's like out there. For an example: I started my life living in New Jersey; then we moved to Illinois ; then we moved to Memphis Tenn; From there I moved to; Key West Fla; then I moved to ... (read in full...)

He says it's over but I'm not sure if he means it. Do you think there's still hope?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had an arguement 5 weeks ago and says it over. We've been together 2 and a half years and have fallen out before and have sorted things out. I can't work him out as he answers my calls sometimes and if I ask him to do jobs aro...

A.   9 August 2009:  Sometimes its not easy and you've said you love him but when was the last time he said he loved you? And meant it? He may be coming over to your house to do jobs just to help you out and it might have nothing to do with your former relationship. ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is infertile... is there away for us to have a child together?

Q.   my botfriend is sterile. hes 24, im 39. weve been together for 4 and a half yrs. how can he go about having a child? he doesnt want me to be artificialed inceminated. is there any way to get his sperm cell count back? i dont know why hes ...

A.   9 August 2009: Forgive me but I am going to try to answer your question with very little emotional feelings involved in this. I am a guy and your boyfriend is a guy and us guys have been taught to not show certain emotions; this does not mean we dont know what ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend won't go down on me anymore, any ideas?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We're both in our early - mid 20's. When we first started dating for about the first 3 months he would ALWAYS give me oral sex(though not very good) and always talked about how much he liked giving ...

A.   8 August 2009:  I am a guy but I understand your concerns with sex thats not satisfying you. Ive had partners that were not satisfying me; even know they told me one thing and told her friends something different. At times I thought something was wrong with me but ... (read in full...)

Sex and virginity

Q.   hey, ok I have a million questions, but ill ask this one question that I have had in my head for a while. im a virgin and I always think guys want to have sex with me because of that but I also think once I tell a guy im a virgin they don't want to ...

A.   30 May 2009:  Hi--I agree with some of the other people that you should be very private on who you tell this too. There are guys who dont care if you are a virgin or not. There are good guys out there; they are not all ugly or a geek. But going around telling ... (read in full...)

He says he can never be my friend which saddens me...

Q.   Hey, I don't know what to do about this guy. I once liked him a LOT, but he didn't like me back. Fair play. We have been talking for about 5 months, and in this time I have got to know him [I think] quite well. I care for him and his welfa...

A.   30 May 2009:  I feel there is hope for everyone; even the people who dont like you. Even the people who dont understand you. All need hope as corny as that may sound. Ive been used and abused but I dont go that road anymore. You will find your way if I could ... (read in full...)

Am I still a virgin?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is my first boyfriend. I am also a virgin. So I've always said I would not have sex until I was married. But more and more, it's getting harder between my boyfriend and I. Today, we were ...

A.   29 May 2009:  Dear Virgin--Just about all the human race when they are young fooled around with sex in one way or the other. One way to check out your penetration is to go to a hospital and have you tested. (In many states; this can be done without your parents ... (read in full...)

Useless husband doesn't show any appreciation to me

Q.   Hello Everyone, I do everything for my husband. I get up before him to make him breakfast, I make sure the house is tidy I fold his laundry, I run him baths, I shave him sometimes as he finds it tedious. As well as household duties I also wr...

A.   29 May 2009:  I dont know where to start but he is very lucky to have you; you sound like an organizer and he sounds like he wouldnt know where to start? (He may be good in business but not in some other things). Im only asking but is what you expect a good ... (read in full...)

Grilfriend physically cannot give head. Move on, wait, or accept it?

Q.   Hey I have posted this question before but didn't explain enough so the advice I received wasn't particularly relevant. The problem I seem to have is that I am in a 5 month ongoing relationship- we are both 21 and I have never received head to...

A.   29 May 2009:  Not penetration sex but the other kind? I have met women who told me they did(head) and sober with their husbands. I have met women who told me they would never give head because they felt dirty.(Maybe they have other issues?) To me/ I feel ... (read in full...)

I want to keep our friendship but I'm afraid he might confess his feelings for me

Q.   I have a friend, and i think he likes me, he really is a nice guy, perfect gentleman and everything, it's just that i am not attracted to him at all. i mean he would be a great boyfriend but i don't see myself with him. and i'm afraid that he might ...

A.   29 May 2009:  Ive never been a woman; but in my experience there are women who who only think about there own feelings and not the guys? Why did you originally date him if you were not physically attracted to him; then or now? If you want to move on; then its ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend for 9 months but a crush on my best friend, What should I do!?

Q.   I'm currently a freshman in college who commutes back and forth to school. My senior year in February I started dating this guy. I'm 18 and hes 20. It has now been 9 months we have been going out. I lost my virginity to him and he has became super ...

A.   29 May 2009: One thing I can say about giving second chances during a relationship is very simplistic and this is/ Where does it end? It's easy to give in but hard to get out? (Many problem women know what Im saying.) Im not trying to preach to you; Im just ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend for 9 months but a crush on my best friend, What should I do!?

Q.   I'm currently a freshman in college who commutes back and forth to school. My senior year in February I started dating this guy. I'm 18 and hes 20. It has now been 9 months we have been going out. I lost my virginity to him and he has became super ...

A.   28 May 2009:  I have a few ideas that might help you decide BUT you have to make the final decision? Which boy treats you like you are his best friend and you know this will continue? In your deepest feelings--how do you feel about either boy? Do you Like ... (read in full...)

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