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writes:HiI've been with my boyfriend 5 months but we had this spark from the moment we got together. Unfortunately I had a fling with his friend before I got with my boyfriend. I only was seeing his friend for 3 wks then he ended it. Then 2 weeks after the fling me n my boyfriend started chatting then meeting up as friends but ended up as more. He knew I'd had a brief fling with his friend before got together. But 5 months down the line he is struggling because he can't talk to his mate no more and they work together,he also struggled because he is reminded about it at work and when he over at mine as his mate use to come over. his mates makes digs that he has been with me before him. Me n my boyfriend want to work thru this but don't know how. How do I fix this and make him feel better and make us work?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 You need to speak with this friend to tell him to stop rubbing it in. You should also make sure your bf knows he's the only one you have eyes for and this thing with his friend is in the past. Make sure your boyfriend feels special, he may also just need time to adjust and to know he can trust you that what happened with his friend is in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Human relationships aren't designed to work this way very well. When you're a girl you get to have one guy per group of close friends. More than one is a recipe for disaster at least in terms of real relationships.I'm not blaming you, I'm just pointing out the way things are.
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reader, LunaticLove92 +, writes (27 March 2011):
Ehh I understand what your bf is going through. My current gf cheated on me with my best friend and it hurts pretty. The fact is you need to understand to act like his friend doesnt exist, your bf needs to know that hes the only man you love and want, tell him he is way better than his friend regardless if its a lie. Also his friend isnt really a friend if enjoys rubbing it in his face that he was with you first, he sounds poisonous to the relationship, he should probably be cut off from yall two. But thats just my thoughts on it..good luck
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (27 March 2011):
Since you slept with his mate in the past and your boyfriend is aware of this, there's nothing to fix here.It's a matter of whether your boyfriend will be able to deal with this and get over it. Which, as long as he keeps contact with his mate will be very difficult.
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