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writes:i have reoccurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend who left me after 12 years and married someone else but always called and drop by unexpected. he passed away 3 years ago and I still have dreams about seeing him and his wife together. a few days before he passed away he told me he was moving back down here where he was from. He lived about 1 1/2 hour drive away. i told him if he did to stop coming by because I did need any trouble started. He said that is not the first divorce I have been through. he just would not leave me alone but he knew I loved him so much. he would even come to my job to see me if I did not answer my phone when he called. I am confused what my reoccurring dreams mean anyone have a clue what my dream means?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 January 2017):
 I think you are dreaming about him because you still think about him a lot and he consumes a lot off your thoughts. It is hard when someone leaves you and you still love them. You need to bury these feelings in the past now and move on with your life.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (3 January 2017):
I don't think dreams MEAN anything except possibly that we have unresolved emotions about the person (or situation) we're dreaming about.
I often dream about a boyfriend I broke up with over 15 years ago but I have worked out a pattern to my dreams. They only occur when
A) I've just started dating a new guy
B) I've just broken up with someone
C) I've been helping a friend through a break-up
It's like the thoughts and emotions I experience during A,B & C rekindle subconscious emotions from the past which only really surface during dream sleep. Why I dream about that particular boyfriend and not someone more recent, I have no idea - I guess it's because I really loved him.
But once the dream is over, I don't dwell on the why's and wherefores of the dream and whether it has some deep significance. I just think "Well that was a bit weird" and try to forget about it
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 January 2017):
 You once had strong feelings for this man but it was left unresolved in your subconscious so it will pop up from time to time. You should probably seek professional help to bury those feelings once and for all lest they recur in future dream sequences. Or, you could meditate and flush out the latent feelings once and for all .It's a lot cheaper to do it yourself via Zen meditation techniques.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 January 2017):
 He sounds like he was someone you tried to get rid of, and that you still havent been able to remove the parts of you that he controlled. You need to look at yourself and find the traits that keep you prisoned. Your dreams tell you you need to move on in life, yet these traits hold you back. Find out how/why you let him control you, and change this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2017): You are still pining for a man who is gone. You have not moved forward with your life, and that is so sad.
Years ago, I had a friend who wrote a letter to his deceased ex who also haunted his dreams. In his letter, he said goodbye; he was freeing his mind. He lit a candle, and said he read the letter out-loud for the last time. Burned the letter, blew-out the candle; and far as I know, he hasn't mentioned his dead ex since. They had an awful relationship as I recall.
Each night before retiring to bed, please repeat the affirmations: "He has passed on, and I'm moving on!"
My dear, time to move on from the past and let go of this guy who hasn't been in your life, and left you to marry someone else. You can't really control dreams; but you can modify your thoughts until your subconscious mind accepts his death and allows you peace.
You apparently haven't dated, you must be quite lonely; but you hold-on to those memories too tight. He left you, then comes back when he belongs to someone else. He made you a conspirator to his cheating on his wife. You made it easy because you didn't really put your foot down and insist he leave you alone. So there's a little Karma behind the dreams for that. Guilt reminds you it was wrong seeing him, and you gave him too much power over your life.
Bury him! He's dead. The dreams have no meaning, only that you have not accepted the reality that he's dead. It may also mean you've tied your heart to a cheating dead-man, and haven't allowed anyone else in.
It's a New Year, my dear! Make yourself available and start fresh. Time to date and have fun. Life's too short!
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