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anonymous
writes:recently devorced from husband. have never cheated on him not once. what ended our marriage was I descovered he had and was cheating on me. for a few Years I had a secret crush on his brother. I never told anyone. My x husband and his brother do not get along. they went for over 2 years with out speaking. when they finally did talk. it was strange it was though he know his brother was up to something. his brother and I did some talking between us. I divorced my husband. a few times things happend between me and his brother. I do have feelings for him. my ex doesn't know and I don"t know how to stop these feelings. I havn't seew the brother for a while. we don"t want to hurt our Kids. By the way He"s not married or dating anyone either. Just don't know what to do. Am I sick and digusting to have feelings for my ex brother in law? I havn"t been with anyone else. And I definitely don"t want my x back. He was mean abusive verbally and physically. His brother is the complete opposite of him. any tips?? advise???
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 You're not sick or disgusting for having those feelings. End of the story. We all have eyes and hormones.
On the other hand, giving in to them would be the wrong thing to do. It would hurt a lot of people, particularly your children. I think it's best if you two don't give in to that attraction.
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reader, NicoleP  +, writes (21 September 2008):
You're definitly not sick or disgusting. It's just human nature to have feelings for someone. If this man is kind and you get along, then there is nothing sick about it. Just make sure he has the same feelings towards you so to avoid being hurt before you get yourself in any deeper. It's nothing to do with your ex husband if the two of you get together, he shouldn't have been so abusive. You deserve happiness.
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