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writes:i am 14 and i am worrying how should a 14year old act?am i old enough for sex or should i still be playing around and having fun like a child.am i old ?or am i worrying over nothing i feel that i am too old for christmas am i ?what is the saverage 14 year old girl like
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Gosh, I hated being 14. I am speaking from somebody who is youngish at 31, not your Mum's age.
I can speak almost from some experience.
At 14 I stayed over at a boy's house (he was in my year at school). We had loads of fun in bed kissing and what not, and needless to say things got pretty far. To be honnest I said no because I felt like a kid playing at an adult's game. I asked if he had done it before and he said he hadn't, and I said I hadn't either. It just didn't feel right, I can't explain it more than that.
Some people claimed to have already had sex. At school on Monday, one of his mates said to me "You slept with
Andrew ****". From that many people assumed I was not a virgin. So belive me, don't belive all you hear in the school gossip!!
Before you know it, you will be 16 or 18, with a different boyfriend, and it will feel so different. Both physically, in a turned on way, and mentally that you are ready, and able to do what everybody else is doing. That bit of time makes all the difference.
So please wait, believe me there are so many opportunities.
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reader, nikkij +, writes (21 December 2007):
 No sex...seriously. You might not be a child, but you aren't physically, mentally, or emotionally matured to be having sex. 14 is a hard age because no you're not a child and naturally you don't want to be involved in or even have an interest in childest things. You're at a developing stage in your life...and frankly this time tends to be very difficult for most people your age...No you dont need to be playing "children's games" but sex is definitly not something you want to get into right now...if you wait then when your older you will be thankful you did...
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (21 December 2007):
There are two answers here.You are not a baby,you can start having sex if you want.You are old enough to start learning it the hard way.If you start now you'll be far more sexually experienced than some of your mates at your age,heh?You'll fear sex less and enjoy it more.Your curiousity will be satisfied.
On the other hand,once you start having sex you'll find it hard to stop as you'll want it more and more.You'll find it hard to concetrate at school because you'll spend more time trying to look good(sexy is the word).You won't know if a guy truly loves you or just wants sex from you.I know some people will argue the next one but i find it very true.You'll be sexually worn out by the time you get married coz you've had too much premarital sex.You'll find it extremely uncomfortable.Even if the vagina is elastic,your's still developing and you may be surprised what you find out there!Personally,i believe in the end you gain more respect as a virgin.No one has died being a virgin.I would give anything to marry one.
So think about it and make the right choice.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Physically? Your body is ready the moment you start getting the desire to mate.
Emotionally however its a different thing altogether. In the current society, we have a thing about babying people. As a consequence where people were normally knocking boots and having kids and fighting wars at 14 or 15, they are still considered children these days.
If you have to ask yourself if you're ready, then you are not. You'll know it when you are, it will seem logical and the only thing to do. It will feel natural. And no questions will you need to ask yourself.
So I say hold on until you feel comfortable enough. After all if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you?
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): NO!!! having sex at to young of an age is bad the best thing to do is to wait until you are 18 or older
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): I have exactly the same feelings as you.
I'm 14 n I get annoyed when my mates go n do sex n stuff, and I feel like I'm goin too slow, but then I realised something...
WHO GIVES A F**K IF YOUR NOT DOING WHAT THEY'RE DOING.
Look, your virginity is precious, if you wanna lose it so bad (believe me, not too long ago i wanted to lose it a lot too) then lose it to someone you love and loves you back, because that person will always be in your life whether its with your boyfriend or a drunken mistake.
do you really want to look back like 'oh i was 14 and slutty and lost my virignity to a dickhead' or 'oh i dunno i was like 16 or something and at the time we loved eachother...good times'
and I know it's tempting to be a bit slutty at your age, but believe me guys don't like sluts, you'd just get used.
please I actually beg you from the bottom of my heart, lose your virginity to someone you love and that loves you back, whenever that might be.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 Your not old enought, wait as long as possible nuff said.
And you are not to old for christmas, it just changes with your age.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (20 December 2007):
 At 14 you don't necessarily have to be running around like a child, but i would most certainly say that you are way to young to be contemplating having sex at this early age. And of course you are not to old for Christmas, your never to old. Of couse Christmas's change, they are not going to be the same, like when you were 9 or 10. I still really look forward to christmas and im 29.
Going back to the sex thing, as i said you are to young at 14, your virginity is something that you should hold on to for as long as you can, and be lost with someone whom you love with all your heart, and of course reached a maturity where you are ready. Enjoy being 14, go out with you mates, have fun, have a laugh, eye up the boys, and just enjoy the joys that being 14 brings, because it won't last forever.
Merry Christmas x
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 Oh my gosh. What is the average 14 year old girl like? I can give you a height and weight bell curve thing, but aside from that, not much. Everyone's different (even at fourteen, where a lot of them want to be just the same).
So, Christmas. Let's see. Some people, even as little teeny kids, never really get into the whole Christmas thing. My sister was one of them - she hated the fuss and let everyone know it. And then some people, such as my 55-year-old boss, never let go of the fun. He's spent the last few weeks skipping around, singing Christmas carols and basically annoying the hell out of everyone by sticking candy canes into their faces all the time. It's all good.
As for sex. The age limits they put on sex are there for a reason. You're under the limit, so I'd say you're probably too young. There are a few people who are ready at fourteen, but the majority aren't. And then there are some people who aren't ready at eighteen, or at twenty-two. Everyone is different and when you're ready for sex, you'll know about it. It's not just a question of hormones going crazy either, it's an emotional thing.
Don't spend too much time worrying about how you're supposed to be. The important thing is to relax and enjoy yourself. Find out as much about yourself as possible. Ask yourself questions and figure out the answers. Do you keep a diary? Sometimes it helps a lot. Just be honest with yourself.
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