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writes:hello dear readers, so i sposted allready lot's of questions.The story is like this i've been seeing a girl for 4 months, and beetween us is real serios.She loves me and she does everything for me, we went o vacation together, she slept at my house for 1 month cooked for me etc.But the problem now that we are in diferent cities. And as i've been to the university i met another girl very cute, i like her a lot, and every time she invites me to her room, because she lives alone in student campus.And i don't know if she want's me to make the first step or it's just friendly.But i don't want to because i have a GF already.But the other girl keeps calling me to her room, for like 4 times a week. I love my girlfriend and want to be together with her, but i wont see her for like in 5 months.But on the other hand don't want to screw with the other girl at the university.So what should i do, i like them both, but with the girl at the university wil lnever be serios,maybe sex,and a couple of weeks of relationship.. I'm in a love triangle...help.
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reader, doom +, writes (11 October 2009):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the question LethalInjection-x =thank you for your answer. You're right about that i shouldn't make a false impression on the other girl and put it clear between us.But i don't think that spltting would be a great idea,when people splitte for a period it's means that their relationship needs a little break.But with my GF, she will come to my city in 7 months,she phones me every day, she is very gelous...So finnaly she cares. But the difficult thing is that i'm a guy and a guy needs somebody, so that's what is the most difficult task. Thanks again=) xxx
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Well you obviously don't want to be in a relationship with the girl at the university, you made that quite clear. So you need to make it clear that you're not looking for a girlfriend or anything similar. If she is inviting you often because she wants that from you, you constantly going to see her could maybe give her the wrong impression. So maybe you could try telling her that you can't see her as often, because you see it as unfair seeing as you can't spend that much time with your girlfriend?
With regards to your girlfriend.. you need to talk to her about the distance issue, and how often you get to see each other. You need to think really hard about her though. Have you always been so far away from each other? Or did you know each other locally first? The reason I ask is because, you may think you're really right for each other now, but if you were closer together and saw each other more often.. it may not be the case anymore.
Long distance relationships will always be difficult, and you always have the problem of meeting other people - as you found out. If you and your girlfriend really are right for each other, you could try a break. As in, you could break up while apart, then re-assess the situation when you're both finished with what you have to do, and you could consider moving closer etc.
Splitting up temporarily would be better in my opinion. If you meet someone else that you really hit it off with, you could end up doing something that would really hurt your girlfriend. Or on the other hand, your girlfriend could unintentionally hinder your social life, as you may feel awkward about making new friends incase you're left with the "what if" feeling.
Hope this helps x
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