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anonymous
writes:hey,im the type of guy who finds it awkward getting close to people and my friends tink im gay coz i dnt react well to hugs off girls nd stuff im not gay i just dnt feel like huging people ..am i a freak or is this normal? Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Hello there Anonymous,
You're not a freak at all. My husband is the exact same way as you are - he hates anyone touching him (except me). He doesn't even like hugging his own parents, although he still loves his family. Some people just are really not touchy-feely at all. You're just one of those people, I suppose, and that's okay! ^_^
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): just imagine this...if the prettiest girl you know or can think of, walked up to hug you .... somewhere that you were both alone and it was dark. Would you still feel awkward? I doubt it. You are still a young man and my thought is that you are just shy. It also doesn't help that your friends pick on you about it. That really just makes you more self conscious when you have no reason to be.
I was shy when I was in high school until I found better friends that let me be myself. Ive completely changed...the opposite... so dont worry, once you find a girl you like, you will want her to hug you too much haha.
good luck
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (24 September 2007):
 what great friends you have! in time your confidence will grow and you'll learn to feel at ease when a girl gives you hug but for now you not wanting your personal space invaded is completely your choice and you are in no way a gay freak.
ignore the idiots!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Very normal. No one is born fully confident, lots of people are shy.
And your friends are the freaks if they cal you gay.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (24 September 2007):
 Personally i don't think there is anything wrong with this. Alot of people find it difficult to open up, and to have physical contact with people. Don't worry about it, and don't listen to people who call you gay, its just who you are.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): You are not a freak.
You just have differing boundaries than your peers. Some people don't feel it's appropriate to display public affection. It's a choice that can be influenced by their physiology, nature vs. nurture, introvert vs. extrovert, homelife, values political, religous, cultural.
Not all youth or adults for that matter, want to accept that not everyone shares the same belief structure or principles.
We humans do have an innate need to be accepted. This is more pronounced in the youth as it is a stage of life where they are seeking their identiy and peer pressure is a real event they experince everyday. Most youth believe that decisions made by caving to peer pressure will grant them approval and acceptance by their peers. Few realize that peer pressue or conforming to the norm of such an age groups expectations are an unfair and unrealistic demand.
Maybe you want to keep such matters for someone you truly care for.
You get to decide what your norm is; what makes you happy and comfortable. You are way ahead of the game.
Best Wishes
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 It's normal, man. I think some people call it shyness. Don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Your not a freak at all, in fact im sure this goes down well with the girls.It shows that you are affectionate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Totally normal. You're just not a touchy feely kind of person & I am not either unless it's with someone I am in love with. It's annoying when random people you don't know try to hug you. Don't worry about it.
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