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writes:I've been in relationship with my boyfriend for now 2years.. I'm 17 and he is 18, everything was perfect till the last 6 months when we started to row and things like that..he said it is because he didn't know if he loved me anymore, because i wasn't treating him good before.. so from then on all i was doing was caring about him and showing and proving my love to him. These last weeks he went to meet a friend of his, and when he came back he told me he liked that she's very beautiful that she has hair like Slash and that I know how much he likes Slash. I asked him to tell me the truth, did he like her (as I know him very well, he is very direct and he never tries to make me jealous and things like that, (he always says what he feels) he told me that he liked her and he'd be with her if I wasn't with him. A few min later he said. "Right, look things are like this: I do feel something for u, I love u and I know how worth u are and I cannot ever find someone like you.. But I think I want to brake up because I wanna feel my life now I wanna have fun at this age". He also said, after some years when he finishes the university, we could get married. I laughed and said it was the most stupid thing i ever heard from him and if he's in a relationship with someone else and not with me he'll forget me very quickly.. What would u aunts do if u were in my place.. any advice :( I love him madly I can't seem to get over him in any way.. I tried many times because I felt like we're going to break up but it didn't work.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 It sounds like he needs a little fun and freedom, as sadly happens in long term relationships when you're younger!
Let him go...If he has a few months of freedom and decides he misses you, then you can decide if you want him back or not.
If he doesn't, then keep your chin up and remember everything happens for a reason, and he just wasn't the one for you.
Break ups always suck, keep yourself busy, go out with girlfriends, do anything to keep yourself occupied and give yourself as little time to think as possible! xx
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Im sorry to here of your pain sweetheart, It sounds as if he wants his cake and eat it at this moment he is telling you he loves you but he is also saying that he wants to go and be with other girls for awhile then when he has had his fun he wants to come back to you...NOPE!!!!Ok if he has told you he doesnt love you he has contradicted himself as he does but he wants you to be prepared to wait for him while he goes of humping around, Im being blunt hunny as he is hurting you and I dont feel that you should wait around, If he loved you he wouldnt want to hurt you so much, I no you are both young sweetheart but you do not want to be in a possition later in life were if you got back together after he had his fun knowing he pushed you to one side when it suited him...Now if you turned round to him and said yes I agree we both need to experience different things and being free will allow us to do this, But we cant say we will get back together or married as one of us may fall in love..Now I no you dont want to say any of those things love but it will give him something to think about, Plus if you are always there doing your best to be the good kind i'll do anything for you g/f then he has nothing to worry about at all, It leaves you worrying and heartbroken...So you may have to bite your tongue try to be strong and agree this may be a shock treatment but what is good for one is good for another hunny...You can cry scream and shout away from him and if you need a chat message me anytime love..he cant have his cake then have you waiting for him to come back to you no way totally selfish sweetheart. TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Atleast he was honest with you. Its very sad to see that he isn't willing to commite the same way you are, but the truth of the matter is he feels too young to be tied down. He very bluntly said what he wants and you cannot stop him from doing what it is he wants in life otherwise he will resent you.
It will hurt and will take time to get over him, but you will eventually. You are young and you too should take this as an opportunity to experience life and get to know yourself. I know you may not see it that way now, but thinking that way will also help you on your way to getting over him. Getting over him doesn't mean forgetting him. In the future, who knows, you two may end up getting back together again, but you shouldn't wait for him. If its ment to be its ment to be. Remain good friends if you can handle it. If not let him go completely.
His offer of him marrying you in future is just his way to have a fail safe if it all goes wrong and I wouldn't take the statement seriously or put any faith behind it. If he is serious he would stay with you now and would have no reason to do other things.
What you should say to him is that you respect his honesty and you will honour his request, but not to expect you to come running back to him when he says so.
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