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writes:iam 34 years old woman dating 50 years old american man for 9 years,i met him when i was 26 and he was 42 and we are completly commeted to eachother.we are trying to be married 5 years back but my family refuse him for 2 reasons,one, he in not saudi,two,he is older than me.we need my family approval to get married ,family approval is needed for marrige in saudi arabia.we are seeing each other regurly alone and with his freinds.my family threat me many times if i ask to marrey him,and iam taking this risk by asking them again and again. i don't know how i can get their aproval from and how to love him.he met my sisters and mom,not my brother ofcourse(dad is died),but they find him he is so old for me,but i don't see this becouse we have achamistry and we don't see age in each other but we see lovers.my dream is to spend the rest of my life with him,and i never see anyone than him for the last 9 years.what i can do to marry him? Reply to this Question
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reader, frankman  +, writes (23 October 2011):
if you both have the same belief/ religion, I think you can marry him. maybe your family is rejecting him for a premarital relationship between you both in a conservative society like Saudi Arabia
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Move to America with him and get married there. Yes this means moving away from your family and friends but I guess it is what you need to sacrifice if you want to marry this man. Good luck.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Well... you can't make him a Saudi.... and you can't make him your same age or younger.... so it looks like the only thing you can do is get away from the system and scheme (i.e. requiring family approval) that is preventing you and your partner from "tying the knot." Why not move to the USofA????
Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 October 2011):
 can you move to a different country?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2011): if you are living in saudi arabia you two could leave, but it might mean not seeing your family again if going against them, and moving to another country. there is no easy solution . you two love each other and want to spend your lives together you may have to make a hard choice, marry each other and be happy, or family wishes.
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