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writes:how do i get over this break up??my boyfriend of 7 months broke up wit me 2 weeks ago and i dont feel like its gettin any easier.. we have been friends for 4 yrs and he was chasin me for them yrs.. i didn give in because i was afraid of gettin hurt because of my past.. but eventually i decided to let my wall down and let him in.. everythin was perfect.. barely ever fought.. then 2 weeks ago he txt me outta the blue sayin he cudn be wit me anymre that he had too much goin on in his life.. it broke my heart.. then i found out he was on tagged a kinda dating site.. he said on it he was single n asked if anyone was up for meetin up n i was with him at d time he rote it.. he wont explain anythin to me says i do deserve an explaniation but he duzn like explainin himself to anyone.. its breakin my heart i cant stop cryin.. said he wants to stay friends n i agreed but said it wud take time to forgive him.. im just so confused cuz a few days before we talked bout movin to england together.. evryday i just wish evrythin was bk to the way it was.. but it keeps gettin harder i dunno wat to do
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reader, marie.d +, writes (31 May 2011):
marie.d is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys!! its basically what my head is tryin to tell my heart x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): He's a lying, heartless, womanizer. Sever all ties with that insignificant waste with the permanent adios. Case closed.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 He won't explain anything because he can't. I'm afraid he's just been caught. You need to get rid, deal with the break-up and when you're ready move on to someone else who appreciates you.
I'm sorry but he has been busted on a dating site while you were together.
As for staying friends my response would be "no chance"... I don't know about you but I couldn't be friends with someone who didn't respect me enough to tell me the truth... Could you be friends with someone who got together with you, put an ad up on a dating site, then broke up and doesn't even have the decency to explain?
Tell him to go jump!
As for getting over it, it's not easy and you will be upset and your feelings will go up-and-down. This is normal and part of healing.
If you like have a read of my article on here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
It might help. Hope it does.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 it's hard because the asshole won't give you any honest answers. which is crap. you do deserve an explanation. and he needs to give you one. it's difficult to move on without one. it's just that final closure that helps us to move in the right direction.
honestly, if he was on a dating site before you two broke up, he was unhappy for a good little while. and it wouldn't surprise me if he met someone off of there and that's why he ended the relationship with you.
if i were you, i wouldn't want any type of friendship with someone who did that to me. no one deserves to be left in the dark like that. he needs to learn how real friends treat one another. and just as importantly, he needs to learn how be a decent person.
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