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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi all,I met this amazing lady about 2 months ago.....we met on the dating site.....and it was a fluke as she doesn't go there often and she was about to log off....I instant messaged her and she replied and we hit it off from the start....normally she will not chat to guy of my age but she said I'm different....few days later....we met up and we instantly clicked in real life.....She really likes me and I really like her and we have been dating / talking to each other since then but the age difference bothers her.....when we are together she said she doesn't feel it...only when we aren't together.....she will txt or email me and said leave it...she said the age difference (me being younger) makes her feel old (older?)....and she said she care about me so much and she wants me to go date younger woman and have beautiful babies and she said having kids is one of the most amazing experience I can experience (she has 3 kids herself)....When we meet up we are good again but when we aren't seeing each other she will have another melt down.Other than the age difference issue (I am 30 and she is 45), she said she would have probably found her soul mate if not because of the age difference and I feel the same as in the chemistry is so right.Opinion?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Have you ever heard of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? They're still together so something must have gone right. I say if you're willing then nothing should be stopping you.
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (13 August 2010):
If it were me, I'd say let's spend time together and make each other happy and have great sex but let's both pursue other relationships at the same time. No reason a woman who can't be your everything has to be your nothing. But most people don't think like I do.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Well, she's partially right. You two may be perfect for each other for many reasons. Unfortunately, each of your ages puts you in a different stage of your life. She has kids and at this stage she is probably just looking for a good man to be with her and love her. She's not looking to make her family any bigger. As for you, you are still at the stage where you most likely want to start a family of your own. No matter which way you look at it, it is what it is.
You both may say "If we were the same age we'd be perfect for each other" but your not. In 5 years she'd be 50 while you are 35. When you are 39 she'll be 54. Could you have a life with her? Sure. But you either have to live with the decision to not have children of your own or she'll have to be open to having more children (which at 45 or later comes with risks).
It's not as much age as it is where each of you are in your life. And unfortunately I think you 2 are in two different places.
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